What is a balanced solution to when a father discovers he is not the DNA father?

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2. The only thing I know...

is there is a child involved. A child that looked to that person as a parent and grew attached to that person. That is more delicate than anything else. The parents got into that situation and knew what they were doing. They had options. The child never asked to be brought into a situation or punished. It is awful, as a child, to feel unwanted and unloved.

I understand that in the above scenario that the dad wants nothing more to do with the child. That is a shame. I guess there is no balance because the dad would become resentful and the child would sense the dad did not want to be there.

Only option is to legally pay what is owed each month and then when the child comes to the dad later in life, asking for an explanation, to be gentle and not crude or rude. Never make the child feel any of it had to do with them. It was not their fault. The only real balance needed here is for the one innocent person who never asked to be involved. Love and compassion is needed.