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MadrasT

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3. "But who says jobless men are entitled to dates?"
Fri Sep 21, 2012, 11:31 AM
Sep 2012

Jobless men who can't get dates?

I make a pile of money. Unless I want to be alone for the rest of my life, I can't make "equal or greater earning" a requirement for a partner. It would narrow the pool of candidates to a handful of 1%-ers. Eeeew.

A man who makes less $$ than me is fine. I don't mind making somewhat greater financial contributions toward the relationship. If he has a work ethic and tries and can support himself on his own, that's good enough for me to consider him to be partner material. And if our relationship can elevate his standard of living because of I am fortunate to have more $$ resources, I'm happy for that. But he has to be able to contribute. It's a partnership.

I want a partner, not a dependent.

If I wanted a dependent, I would have had a child.

It is what it is.

I would never be comfortable in a relationship where I was financially dependent on my partner. Not my style. So why would I choose a partner who would be financially dependent on me?

I can't speak for other women, but that's how it works for me.

There are tons of reasons people "rule people out" of their dating pool. So what? As you said, that's life.

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