For those who think I rant about the patriarchy and misogyny too much

[MadrasT]

51. Hi redqueen

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That was more about a commitment I have made to myself about my way of being.

After decades of confrontational relationships and allowing myself to be bullied by loud, verbally abusive men, I have said "no more". I will no longer engage with, or give the time of day to, people (especially men) who are verbally confrontational and hostile.

The flip side of that commitment to free myself from being the complicit recpient of verbal abuse, is that I am learning to practice nonviolent communication and use nonconfrontational language myself.

I don't feel like I can stand around saying "I won't tolerate verbal abuse" if I dish it out at the same time.

So I try to be extra clear - especially on the internet - that I am interested in conversation, in hearing and being heard - rather than argument.

I am not afraid of confrontation when it is required, but I am trying to be nonconfrontational when it isn't required.