I use to believe/think that men could be feminists

[jollyreaper2112]

4. Hello, broad brush! Meet generalization

I used to believe that it was bull to judge everyone by the actions of a few, or even the few by the actions of most of "their kind." I still do.

Men can be jerks. So can women. There can also be gems of either gender.

Yes, it's condescending for, say, white men to tell others what they're allowed to feel and what's foribidden to think. That's basis of the whole problem in the first place.

But I think it's also ridiculous to tell me what I can or can't be or think because I'm a white man. If I say something like "Yeah, I support equal rights for broads," then you have a clear-cut case of me contradicting myself and it's valid to call me on it. Barring that, what basis do you have to say anything about it? It's valid to say "Many of the men I've spoken with who claim to be feminists don't really understand what they mean or their actions fall short of their words." No broad brush there.