I use to believe/think that men could be feminists

[boston bean]

229. We just agreed, I thought, that it is pretty much a fact

that many will interrupt feminist discussions with "well this happens to men".

Yeah, so it does. It's it feminists fault? Or is it the patriarchal society that perpetuates this. If it's the latter then feminists and feminism is your friend.

Seabeyond is discussing an issue from a feminist perspective, an actual phenomena that occurs throughout our discussions, with men and some women piping in about how bad the men have it and minimizing the real impact of issue that affect women that we are discussing. It's a shameful tactic. And then it's usually followed on that by discussing womens issues from a feminist perspective, we are somehow being bigoted toward men.

You don't like the stereotype you brought up, me either.... Do you really think that feminists are perpetuating that? hell, we want to break gender roles, not keep men locked up in them.

Feminists aren't out to try to disrespect men or insult them by using female based gender stereotypes against men. We are your friend there. The example you provide is usually used by men to make other men feel like they aren't man enough or womanly (sometimes women do it as well). But mostly, it's a problem of the patriarchy and I find it absolutely hilarious that that point is lost on some men and they see feminism as the enemy. When in fact, it is exactly opposite.