Why Guys Really Hate Being Called ‘Creepy’

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11. Shaming is shaming. Using it to manipulate people makes you a creep, without exception

The real problem with "creep" is that it evokes people's "taboo" mode of thought, which means that, in general, they ACTIVELY REFUSE to ever reconsider the judgment, regardless of the facts about either the accuser or the accused.

The real problem with the article is the concept "guys" - who are as similar to each other as, say, blacks, or South Americans.

Once you're labeled a "creep" you are given, and can usually make, no opportunity whatsoever to change your behavior. The people who labeled you already have an interpretive box to put your behavior in, and they are not going to change it because of anything YOU do. As far as I can tell in the school I'm going to, "creep" is a permanent label, not a behavioral description.

Creep is also worse than many other words because creep is not used against the creepy person themselves, it's spread to others who may know the person - it's rare that someone gets called a creep to their face, compared to how often that judgment is circulated socially without the 'creep' being told of it.

It's really all about political power. It's a weapon, not a tool, so of course the worst people grab it first, whether to use it, or whether to overreact against.