From Jada Pinkett Smith's facebook feed... this is why we must call this stuff out.

[Jim Lane]

15. You're citing "Young Girl" but its message is exactly the opposite.

The singer is unhappy to find out that the "woman" is really an underage girl. Key lyric: "My love for you is way out of line."

Full lyrics here.

If a musician sang something like, "I feel like I ought to slap you around but I know that's wrong," that would still excite some critics' ire, simply because it honestly recognized that some people sometimes have violent impulses toward loved ones, but it wouldn't be promoting abuse the way some of the lyrics quoted in this thread do.