Can A Man Be A Feminist If All He Wants To Do Is Bang You?

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9. I'm actually disappointed in a lot of the reactions to this.

I read the blurb on jezebel about it, and now this one, and the comments are mostly some variation of BUTTHERE'SNOTHINGWRONGWITHTHAT.

People seem not to be paying attention to what these men are saying. They, themselves, are disturbed by the amount of focus they put on these fantasies. These aren't brief moments of 'hey that's a sexy person', they are detailed, pornographic fantasies. The fact that they, themselves, are finding them disturbing, should be a huge red flag.

I agree with him that visualizing them in burqas is not the best solution, but it seems to be helping him. As does the three second rule, which neither the gloss nor jezebel saw fit to mention.

This compulsion to engage in "addictive fantasy" is obviously a problem for these men. I wish I could understand why people are so damned resistant to the idea of porn or thoughts like these as being addictive and those compulsions being actually unpleasant and undesirable for the many men who complain about these things.

The pornographic objectification of women isn't natural, and it deserves more consideration than just thoughtlessly dismissing the boys and men who dare to talk about their problems which have been created, yes, by porn and the ubiquitous sexual objectification of women.