The "good feminist"

[BainsBane]

19. I think the key is listening

What bothers me is how many insist blatantly sexist things are not sexist. They refuse to listen or care about how they impact me or others concerned about an issue. They don't care enough to listen.

I appreciate your not denouncing feminists as too aggressive, but I don't think it's necessary that you avoid disagreement, as long as you care enough to listen to the other person's perspective and seek to understand it. Common among all men who oppose feminism is the refusal to listen, to acknowledge the other person's point of view. They consistently trivialize it because they not want to acknowledge anything that challenges their view of the world. Or, as another member's husband says, it may be as simple as they just don't like women enough to listen to us. Denouncing the woman as too aggressive or as a "school marm" is an excuse not to listen.