On allies and male feminists

[seabeyond]

9. you are right. it is the reality of it. it is hard. and if you do not speak up then you are part

of the creation and continuation of the racism or the sexism.

i am going to talk to my boys about this and see how they deal with it. i know my oldest speaks up so often, and it has caused him problems, but he has always been willing to take the repercussions, even when it is so tiring and hurtful. i wonder how he is doing with it in college. but my youngest? i think it has to be a particular type of misogyny or racism or homophobia for him to draw the line. shrugging off the little stuff.

there is just so much in our culture and if living in an area where it is so prevalent, then it would be exhausting for the boys to always call it out.