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KitSileya

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10. I agree with you, all these excuses they make are just so much smokescreen

Reply to ismnotwasm (Reply #3)

Mon Oct 28, 2013, 01:14 AM

Oct 2013

They're simply covering their behinds - how much must they not hurt the women they love, or their extremely independent wife, and how much must they not realize that just because they have a right to say something, doesn't mean it makes them a decent person to say these things? We can totally demand that they behave like decent human beings, and confront them when they aren't, and also demand that they in turn confront men when they aren't being decent. The silence on DU sometimes is overwhelming.

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On allies and male feminists [View all] KitSileya Oct 2013 OP

I agree Arcanetrance Oct 2013 #1

You were definitely on my mind when I described men who do all these things. KitSileya Oct 2013 #2

And there it is ismnotwasm Oct 2013 #3

I agree with you, all these excuses they make are just so much smokescreen KitSileya Oct 2013 #10

Men who do nothing are actually complicit in the patriarchy. Gravitycollapse Oct 2013 #4

"Doing nothing is, in essence, the same as endorsing it." i had to do the hardest thing in the world seabeyond Oct 2013 #8

this is no different noamnety Oct 2013 #5

Here's my view as a young man who sincerely wants to help... YoungDemCA Oct 2013 #6

you are right. it is the reality of it. it is hard. and if you do not speak up then you are part seabeyond Oct 2013 #9

I see what you're saying, KitSileya Oct 2013 #11

Oh absolutely YoungDemCA Oct 2013 #14

a very good Op and i could nto agree with you more. i know that when women, especially our young seabeyond Oct 2013 #7

Gender stereotypes and societal pressure to conform to the gender binary is what drives a lot of it. NuclearDem Oct 2013 #12

Here is one example of how allies can use their privilege to fight oppression. redqueen Oct 2013 #13

Most of us would rather be comfortable. YoungDemCA Oct 2013 #15

+1000 smirkymonkey Nov 2013 #16