I've been thinking. Possible strategy for feminists on DU

[MadrasT]

26. I made a few rules for myself about a year ago.

a) I stay away from the ones who seem like they enjoy arguing and/or just want to push buttons

b) If a thread seems like pure flame-bait, into the trash it goes. No reply from me.

c) I speak my mind when I feel like I need to on other threads.

d) I will NOT get into a back-and-forth argument with anyone where I reply more than twice if I feel like we are not having a good-faith conversation.

In many cases, I post my opinion/thoughts and then do not revisit the thread at all. If someone comes back at me with a snarky, jerky reply, I just completely ignore them. (Do not respond.) I have had people DU-mail me with extra snark when I won't engage with them in-thread, and I just delete the mail as soon as I see what it is. No reply. Won't give them the satisfaction and I really don't give a shit what someone who has already proven themselves to be a jerk has to say. I am just not interested in reading more of their "opinions". (If mail is truly abusive, I would alert on it.)

My voice will not be silenced, but I will not roll around in the mud with jackasses.

The repeated dismissal (by admins) of issues that concern me (and many other feminists here) has led me to not renew my star.

I still value DU because it is the best news aggregator ever, and I truly enjoy many of the folks who post here.

I refuse to let a few assholes ruin it for me, and I will not be silenced.