I don know if there is another way to have a revolution--a century long revolution, but the last 40 years plus changing economics get frightened men to react badly. There's genuine hatred as well, but it used to be more about who owns women's sexuality, now there's a realization that's ain't it anymore it's jobs and position. Women are in college but aren't in top, decision making positions
Take a look at this
This is a list of women who currently hold CEO positions at companies that rank on the 2013 Fortune 1000 lists. Women currently hold 4.2 percent of Fortune 500 CEO positions and 4.5 percent of Fortune 1000 CEO positions.
http://www.catalyst.org/knowledge/women-ceos-fortune-1000
Or this at Harvard

When the committee extended its analysis, Kramer reported, some fields and many departments across FAS are doing well relative to peers [at other institutions] and to the rate at which Ph.D.s are being awarded. Thus, she discounted general leakage from the academic pipeline that siphons women out of Harvards faculty ranks. Rather, she focused on the demographics of several large FAS departments, compared to peer institutions, to highlight seemingly large disparitieswith Harvard trailing well behind the peer mean proportion of tenure-track women in economics, government, and English, for example. She concluded that in at least some instances, Harvard is doing less well at recruiting, attracting candidates, and sustaining tenure-track women facultyat every step of the process.
(Such concerns have prompted deeper inquiry. Lee professor of economics Claudia Goldin, president of the American Economic Association, has begun investigating the disproportionately male enrollment in undergraduate economics concentrations. She has found pervasive unawareness of this gendered skew in economics departments, and suggests that womens disproportional early attrition from the field, after introductory courses, raises the need to rework the curriculum to stress the disciplines utility in analyzing socioeconomic problems, not solely its business and finance applications.)
http://harvardmagazine.com/2013/09/where-the-women-aren-t
Or this report of women in medical leadership positions (stat heavy)
https://www.aamc.org/members/gwims/statistics/#.Ur4aGH-9KK0
I can find many more examples.
So a soft war is a good term, I do know that our foot is in many doors threatening what's been taken for granted for years and years. So frightened people, include into some feminists who think it's still about sexuality are only partially right--we are actual competition now, not because we are female, but because we can do the job. You know--the ones 50 years or so ago society thought we couldn't do.