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Texasgal

(17,047 posts) Fri Dec 26, 2014, 10:41 PM Dec 2014

Scolded by my husbands sister [View all]

UGH.

This year our Christmas has been a bit weird. Both of my parents are having severe health issues and my husbands families schedules have changed. Both my husband and I work so our holiday schedule has been arduous at least.

After some thought we decided to blend the two families and have ONE celebration in our home which we did Christmas day. The day went off well and everyone was happy or so I thought.

Tonight my sister in law has expressed to me that she was very unhappy about a gift that I purchased for our grand-nephew who is three years old.

A quick background: My grand nephew was born from my husbands niece unplanned. She is 20 years old and in college. The pregnancy shocked my husbands side of the familly... and me too as well but not in a bad way. She is continuing with college and our family helps with child care and other things as much as possible. We've watched this sweet boy over here many times and we love this little guy! And we are so proud of our niece!

Anyway, as a three year old he really enjoys playing in my kitchen with pots and pans! he loves to help me "mix" things and "cook" things. He just really LOVES the kitchen!

So... I bought him a "children" pots and pans set to play with. The package is pink with an image of a little girl "cooking" on the front!( I actually did not realize this until it was pointed out to me ) he opened the present and seemed excited of course we did not open all of the gifts to play with because honestly there were so many and lots of parts to things etc.

A day has passed and tonight I get the "why to you by Mateo a girls gift?" " we are not raising a GIRL" " this is a girls gift! It has a girl on the package" etc...etc. I offered to return the gift and by something else but now I am PISSED! I feel like I need to stand up for Mateo! I'm not going to make a big deal out of this but I am really put out over this.

We put ALOT of energy and thought into our day and I feel shat on right now. UGH!

Am I over-reacting?

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Scolded by my husbands sister [View all] Texasgal Dec 2014 OP

No you are not over-reacting TexasProgresive Dec 2014 #1

I was actually surprised by the scolding. Texasgal Dec 2014 #7

Message auto-removed Name removed Dec 2014 #53

nah. christmas is hard enough as it is. you did a good and thoughtful job. seabeyond Dec 2014 #2

Yeah. Your right. Texasgal Dec 2014 #4

Hey, order stuff from cooking.com!!! elleng Dec 2014 #11

Don't return it, he liked it. Tell them how much money professional chefs make. freshwest Dec 2014 #37

I wouldn't return it. stage left Dec 2014 #51

and one day he may be a famous chef.... Grey Dec 2014 #3

Right. murielm99 Dec 2014 #30

Message auto-removed Name removed Dec 2014 #55

no, she is elehhhhna Dec 2014 #5

I'm really not sure. Texasgal Dec 2014 #8

but, doesn't the packaging get thrown away? to the trash, right? never to be seen again? Tuesday Afternoon Dec 2014 #39

How could ann--- Dec 2014 #58

why should our boys be so very fuggin' sensitive to a color? are they really so weak? seabeyond Dec 2014 #60

You can say that; Sweeney Dec 2014 #17

you can suck at it. i cook pretty well & hate to cook. but to discourage a toddler? elehhhhna Dec 2014 #32

Life is full of discouragement. And this is sent to texasgal. Sweeney Dec 2014 #38

dang sweeney, thats beautiful elehhhhna Dec 2014 #44

Like I tell Elena, my eldest granddaughter. Sweeney Dec 2014 #50

No, you are not over-reacting at all, elleng Dec 2014 #6

Thanks Elleng. Texasgal Dec 2014 #9

I understand that you wouldn't have looked at the packaging, elleng Dec 2014 #10

That's actually a great idea! Texasgal Dec 2014 #14

Happy to be of service, Texasgal! elleng Dec 2014 #15

i thought that a very clever idea, also. nt seabeyond Dec 2014 #19

I would bert she's simply reacting irrationally to her own demons. Jackpine Radical Dec 2014 #54

You are not over reacting. onecaliberal Dec 2014 #12

Real possible that he loves to share activities with people who love him. Sweeney Dec 2014 #13

Thank you. Texasgal Dec 2014 #16

Doctor Seuss Sweeney Dec 2014 #18

No! I bought my son "girls toys" as well as "boys toys". Cooking toys. But never weapon toys. Dont call me Shirley Dec 2014 #20

You did NOT over-react--she did! Lifelong Protester Dec 2014 #21

Ask her how "Girly" Gordon Ramsay is. jeff47 Dec 2014 #22

HOW could you be so stupid!? Men don't cook, that's women's work! DRoseDARs Dec 2014 #23

SiL is the babys granxma. the moms in college and said nothing... elehhhhna Dec 2014 #33

I *think* I see the error, but regardless Texasgal isn't wrong. DRoseDARs Dec 2014 #36

Whether you are overreacting or not doesn't matter. What matters is that your upset is not merrily Dec 2014 #24

You're not over-reacting. 840high Dec 2014 #25

Hmmm zentricity Dec 2014 #26

Now that you've said it, I think you're right. onecaliberal Dec 2014 #29

This message was self-deleted by its author Hoppy Dec 2014 #27

Your SIL is RUDE. IdaBriggs Dec 2014 #28

I hate so much that society d_r Dec 2014 #31

Your sister in law is an ungrateful, out of touch, narrow-minded person. oldandhappy Dec 2014 #34

That's what got me when I started thinking about it Blue_Adept Dec 2014 #70

You're not overreacting vive la commune Dec 2014 #35

Seems like your SIL's issue. Jeff Murdoch Dec 2014 #40

So her daughter is in college Kalidurga Dec 2014 #41

Benefit to society RosieS57 Dec 2014 #42

You are NOT over-reacting. Your husband's sister is. Triana Dec 2014 #43

It sounds as if... discntnt_irny_srcsm Dec 2014 #45

If the kid mercuryblues Dec 2014 #46

next year buy him a barbie. mopinko Dec 2014 #47

You're bad! CrispyQ Dec 2014 #49

thank you mopinko Dec 2014 #61

You are not over reacting. CrispyQ Dec 2014 #48

This message was self-deleted by its author JTFrog Dec 2014 #52

Might be good to call or write the manufacturer. Remind them that girls and boys both love to cook. Overseas Dec 2014 #56

this is a good idea too. nt seabeyond Dec 2014 #57

This is more of the issue right here. Indydem Dec 2014 #63

Good points! Overseas Dec 2014 #69

I still cherish the memory of the Betty Crocker baking kit I got as a Christmas gift back in the 50s NBachers Dec 2014 #59

i think back then, it had a picture of little boy and girl using it. amazingly, back then seabeyond Dec 2014 #62

Maybe he will grow up to be an Iron Chef? HockeyMom Dec 2014 #64

No you are not over-reacting rock Dec 2014 #65

Not even remotely over reacting JustAnotherGen Dec 2014 #66

Back in the 1950s, one of my best friends had an EZ Bake Oven Warpy Dec 2014 #67

you want I should kick some SIL ass, Texasgal? Skittles Dec 2014 #68