Men Will Never Truly Understand A Day In The Life of Women. But Shouldn’t We Try?

[seabeyond]

82. wont find me arguing that it is a particular genders fault or that it is all one gender.

or all a genders responsibility. not at all. i dont believe that. i dont profess that.

yours is a personal experience. i can say, that i can see a whole lot of reasons for success that you have not consider. and you assign it to one motivating reason why the women responded as they did.

i cannot relate to a person that allows a disrespective, bullying, abusive person in their life. personally, i cannot relate to that. i dont allow it in my life. and i never have. it isnt a turn on for me. and i can only say for me. i have had a few friends that allowed creeps into their lives but i would say they were on the point of desperate, or needy or settling. there are all kinds of things that are wrapped up in that package. we dont know why some women allowed.

i was talking to one poster in a thread about "nice guys". and he clearly said that the shy guys didnt get the girls cause they did not put themselves out there, from his personal experience. why would the girls notice him. why wouldnt they be pairing off with the guy with confidence. i explained this to my "nice" son. it was the best for him to be able to reconcile that it is about putting one self out there. ad has worked for him

the alpha male. i think maybe that definition may be skewed. the alpha male is not abusive and jerky and an asshole. that would make a lousy alpha. and there are not that many around. my older brother is an alpha. not my father. not my middle brother. the alpha is a leader. a leader is not thinking about self. the alpha thinks of the whole. and alpha is going to have character and it is not about abusing another to his will. a leader would fail in that. he is accepting of himself, accepting of others. willing to push the boundaries not only for himself but others. he is confident in self. all these are traits of a leader. a bully or abuser does not fit into the role of alpha male. it would not be boorish behavior.