Rielle Hunter and John Edwards.

[seabeyond]

37. thank you for the post

it is probably coming from a more empathetic position than i and it was good for me to read it, though i really do not see it in this manner.

any of these situations, it is hard to comment on. the reality, we do not know what is going on in their rl and marriage. we dont know that the other mate is saying, you know, ... dont really like you all that much and gonna stay married but no sex. for me that sets up a whole dynamic. i do not know what is going on in the marriage or relationships.

these situations are always hard.

then as you say, there is the virgin/whore thing going on. married woman good, other woman evil. not really into validating that. or the woman pitted against woman. or the catfight. we have so many insulting roles for women while the man stands aside with a smile.

personally, i take it away from gender. as many women are cheating as men. i have a whole honesty/principle thing. but, this is mine to live because as i say, i do not know what is truly happening in others lives. for me, tell me the truth and go on. you lie, it is ALL on you and i really dont give a shit about the reasons. the person cheating with the a married person is in essence, participating in the lie. the only person i would see as the victim is the one that is unaware, living an illusion. but, that would be my own personal horror. i can handle a cheat. i cannot handle an illusion being created for me to live.

also, the whole power of love thing.... meh. i have a hard time getting that. to me, it is clear that if a man is cheating on the wife, feeding me garbage, it is clear he is a man that is not respectful and why the fuck would i want to be involved. for me, he is showing all the signs of a man that is so not worth my time. so, it is very hard for me to see a woman falling into a trap of lies, in unaware, and being the victim.