Rielle Hunter and John Edwards.

[seabeyond]

44. i think we have been fed a bunch of garbage. ya, i think there are a lot more of us out there

than we like to talk about.

i am a bit of an isolationist, so i don't have a lot of examples around me. but, the three couples i know well, ya, they like being with each other long term. married longer than i. talk well about each other.

actually, i find that with the people i know casually, too.

maybe the people i like to be around are people that are happy in life. i don't know. maybe it is the environment i am in.

my parents were good in their relationship. not as good as hubby and i. my husbands parents are as good and they are 50 yrs. we have one divorce in my family, other brother not married. hubby siblings.... they seem ok, but i don't know them well enough, so i do not know.

that being said. divorce first marriage is 41%, not the 50% or so. and that is brought up cause 2nd and 3rd marriages really raise the odds of divorce. makes sense.

i recently read a study that educated and waiting later to get married was at 15% divorce and has gone down to 11.4%.

it is the very young that marry that raises divorce rate.

i cant tell you what the universal norm is. i can only speak from personal experience.

hubby and i periodically touch on how easy marriage is. but, we were older when we got married. did a lot of our stuff before marrying. knew what we wanted and didnt want and respect each others boundaries.

and we do not like fighting. we like a peaceful environment. it works for us.