Why 6-Year-Old Girls Want to Be Sexy

[seabeyond]

20. i dont think there is a lot of thinkig if you are suggesting society does not feed this

all around our kids. you say "edit sexuality might not be the right word but children are aware of the difference between the sexes even at this early age, regardless of input."

from the day your daughter was born, she hears the comments, isnt she pretty. she is just beautiful. from the day your son was born he heard, look at him pump those fist, he is going to be an active boy. he needs to run. he sure can swing that bat. she is so pretty. she is going to be a charmer. she sits so quietly. isnt she nice. he is going to be a football player. look at him run. he is an active boy. she is so pretty.

what do you think your daughter is being taught.

every show she sees, every commercial, every cartoon, every disney movie, every toy in her pink section tells her who she is. nora is the only little girl in all of the childrens entertainment where she is not assigned a strong female (sexual) presence. and it is very defined and controlled. every time she stands in the toy isle she is being told who she is.

the boy section has no strong color identification.

then there is how the parents talk to their children. and how they talk differently to the genders.

to suggest outside forces do not effect our children at such a young age, that it is an innate quality, to me, is not insightful. that she wants a gun is wonderful. right there she is stepping out of the box created for her. gotta have it pink? why not? it is the only color allowed if you are a girl. thru adulthood. every issue that has to do with women is put in pink. do you really think it is because we women LOVE the color so much? do you really think we are making this decision that even in adulthood we are given an identifying color for our gender?

i had a son that wore out two of my high heels and loved my make up. another son that carried a baby doll for a year. two sons that from the youngest of ages read veraciously. one son that was so articulate and so good at communication at such an early years, he sounded like an adult and pissed off some adults. (all these are girl traits). neither boys excelled at math. both, top of the list in english. neither boys built things regardless of the effort and money i spent try to interest them because it was a "boy" thing. both played with dolls (gi joes).

all three nieces played war with sons. all three nieces wrestled. two out of three nieces played sports and had to be active and move and run. one of my nephews sits quietly.

what i am saying is,

It is strange to see my daughter want a rifle

this alone suggests that though you do not deny your daughter the opportunity, you are in that defined gender role in your parenting right there with so many other parents.

it wasnt strange for me to see sons at a very young age in down time, often, reading or sculpting clay, or coloring or painting.

it wasnt strange wrestling (mom wrestling) with the sons and the nieces.

it wasnt strange seeing the nieces playing war or sports.

they were raised as people. not gender. and they did not follow the assigned gender role.

two nieces totally rejected pink all on their own because they recognized the manipulation and assignment from society. refused all thiings pink. not innately, but intellectually.