History of Feminism

seabeyond

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90. when i was single

Wed Jul 18, 2012, 11:53 AM

Jul 2012

my brother and his wife threw a party for their one yr old. an incredible cost..... really, a party for adults. truly amazing. all out there. i was flabbergasted. no, we did not do that in our house. we started 3 or four. a couple years of parties and presents. i went to one kids party at about 6. he had so many presents. like 20 or more kids, not to mention every family member of a very large catholic (no bc) family. lol. i was shocked i tell you, at the number of presents. from 6 on i told the kids they could invite a couple kids over for a sleepover, NO presents but from family. now, it is dinner out and presents from family.

my kids and their friends live in a place of things.... we really minimized that in this family. i am seeing it serve the kids well, as they get older. work a job. have to spend their money on stuff.

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Why 6-Year-Old Girls Want to Be Sexy [View all] redqueen Jul 2012 OP

And this is not that far from the Islamist ideals. PDJane Jul 2012 #1

We'll have reached equality when males are responsible Warpy Jul 2012 #31

it is much deeper than just eating disorders. a society that has totally dehumanized the female seabeyond Jul 2012 #2

One thing I find very disturbing... redqueen Jul 2012 #3

absolutely redq seabeyond Jul 2012 #4

kinda confused over this one, are yoiu saying that someone hasnt the right to take pictures of loli phabay Jul 2012 #6

I hope future studies address this - Parents, teachers and peers Iris Jul 2012 #5

what is this with the cake thing? lol. i didnt even have a party for kids until 3 or 4. seabeyond Jul 2012 #7

I thought the smashing the cake in the face was a wedding tradition. CrispyQ Jul 2012 #9

ya... that one is stupid, too. i know they want the little ones to dig i and getting messy seabeyond Jul 2012 #10

my kids were the opposite, both of them just grabbed and started to eat. loli phabay Jul 2012 #11

This message was self-deleted by its author seabeyond Jul 2012 #12

good to hear. nt seabeyond Jul 2012 #13

If you are over analyzing, come sit by me! Iris Jul 2012 #17

cakes just teeming with whipped hydrogenated oils. seabeyond Jul 2012 #88

Some people seem to think it's some kind of "tradition" Iris Jul 2012 #15

when i was single seabeyond Jul 2012 #90

interesting that sport take a girl beyond this, and yea, what i was saying. but, also seabeyond Jul 2012 #8

I think parents don't realize how much influence they actually have. Iris Jul 2012 #16

was thinking about this article and not sure i agree with it %100, was thinking about my daughter 5 loli phabay Jul 2012 #14

When you say this: boston bean Jul 2012 #18

well at the most basic level they know there is an anatomy difference loli phabay Jul 2012 #19

Are you saying physical characteristics? boston bean Jul 2012 #22

not a man or a woman they are kids so act like a boy and a girl loli phabay Jul 2012 #24

Who asked you to force anything upon your children? boston bean Jul 2012 #27

fair enough. i got no problem with them fulfilling gender roles as they are happy and content. loli phabay Jul 2012 #30

"Her thing is hunting trapping fishing" she has already proved to you the gender roles are bullshit seabeyond Jul 2012 #44

you know what they say about assumptions loli phabay Jul 2012 #50

where are the assumtpion? i was asking you a question. that is not assumptions. the difference seabeyond Jul 2012 #52

okay i will take that back but trust me stepping outside tbe box is the norm loli phabay Jul 2012 #59

well they know he has a penis and she dosent loli phabay Jul 2012 #25

And how does she know this with others outside the family? boston bean Jul 2012 #28

considering all the kids in tbeir peer group use guns that would not be an identifier loli phabay Jul 2012 #34

at that young age the difference in having a penis and not having a penis teaching nothing of all seabeyond Jul 2012 #40

no they know what a penis is. its not exaclty something that should be hidden esp whilst peeing loli phabay Jul 2012 #45

did i say it needed to be hidden? assumptions? my kids were naked all summer ever summer until THEY seabeyond Jul 2012 #48

i dont think there is a lot of thinkig if you are suggesting society does not feed this seabeyond Jul 2012 #20

no i was saying it was strange to see her want a rifle but it had to be pink loli phabay Jul 2012 #21

You're daughter may very well just like the color pink. boston bean Jul 2012 #23

we cannot say for certain either way and as long as shes happy im okay with it loli phabay Jul 2012 #26

Fine, that is all I am saying, you cannot be certain. boston bean Jul 2012 #29

are you really suggesting that a COLOR is gender specific and not taught? are you really suggesting? seabeyond Jul 2012 #42

no once again you are using your filter loli phabay Jul 2012 #51

well, i am thrilled to hear and know that you do not think your girl loves pink simply because she seabeyond Jul 2012 #56

no pro lem i find the written word the worst form of communication there is loli phabay Jul 2012 #61

i really am enjoying my conversation with you. another oooops, on the roles we are given. seabeyond Jul 2012 #64

different culture i suppose also im very open about stuff though i will disagree with you on everyth loli phabay Jul 2012 #70

but... you do not disagree with me on everything. after all these posts, we disagree on very little seabeyond Jul 2012 #71

we just need to avoid each other when sex is the subject as i know our views are miles apart loli phabay Jul 2012 #73

This message was self-deleted by its author seabeyond Jul 2012 #75

maybe. maybe not. i do not assume. questions work better for me. and clarification. nt seabeyond Jul 2012 #76

It is easy to teach kids to be aware of all the silly gender conditioning messages. redqueen Jul 2012 #33

her authentic self. that is the goal for both our boy and girl. from the youngest of ages i was seabeyond Jul 2012 #32

well she knows pink is a good colour on her and she feels it suits her loli phabay Jul 2012 #35

That's very good for you and your daughter. boston bean Jul 2012 #39

rofl i loved the finality of the hate of pink. loli phabay Jul 2012 #41

well then. there you go. it is not about gender, it is about liking the color and liking it on. seabeyond Jul 2012 #43

never said it was just said my daughter likes pink regardless of others input loli phabay Jul 2012 #53

i am glad to hear, cause this conversation started out sounding you thought pink was about gender seabeyond Jul 2012 #58

no i was just against forcing either view on kids. i am for allowing them to find their own way loli phabay Jul 2012 #65

we agree. me, too. i totally refuse that type of parenting. hence, me teaching them seabeyond Jul 2012 #68

mines are a pain in the ass most of the time but they are fun and cheeky as crap loli phabay Jul 2012 #72

ha ha ha. see, the opposite, though nto a disagreement. mine are not a pain in the ass and not seabeyond Jul 2012 #74

i hate to say it but her mother is the big hunter i will do it but she is more skillfull loli phabay Jul 2012 #77

ha. cool. my hubby has found in shooting, the girls/women often do better than the boys/men seabeyond Jul 2012 #79

my duaghter loves duck dynasty and river monsters loli phabay Jul 2012 #81

i was raised on a farm where at two i ran around the house to see father break the neck of two seabeyond Jul 2012 #82

maybbe not as much just the not killing thing loli phabay Jul 2012 #84

mmmm, well see, i am very much open to differing views. i married a repug. i gotta be open. nt seabeyond Jul 2012 #85

rofl i stand by my advice that we avoid each other in any sex threads or you will be looking loli phabay Jul 2012 #86

nope. cant do that. if i have something to say, well.... there you go. seabeyond Jul 2012 #87

no probs i am just going to go to your other thread to disagree with you talk to you again loli phabay Jul 2012 #89

ha ha. make my day.... lol. nt seabeyond Jul 2012 #91

I do not think that this article is true at all. JDPriestly Jul 2012 #36

in some ways i agree with you. my daughter wants to get married and have kids loli phabay Jul 2012 #37

does your son? cause my sons have always had that expectation also. nt seabeyond Jul 2012 #46

nope he is vehemtly against it but hes only 7 so im not surprised loli phabay Jul 2012 #55

what do you mean he is only 7 so not surprised? cause innately a girl has the need to marry and seabeyond Jul 2012 #60

rofl i mean he sees me miserably married. just kidding loli phabay Jul 2012 #63

thanks. isnt that funny. but, for real. each kid is uniquely themselves. two sons. seabeyond Jul 2012 #66

Did you click the link and see the dolls used in the study? nt redqueen Jul 2012 #38

Nevermind, I already know you didn't read it. redqueen Jul 2012 #47

dsk is innocent. edwards is innocent. polenski did nothing wrong. weiner is good to go. seabeyond Jul 2012 #49

????? redqueen Jul 2012 #54

yes. nt seabeyond Jul 2012 #62

Yikes. redqueen Jul 2012 #67

and yet.... i appreciate and value jd, just amazing how consistently opposite seabeyond Jul 2012 #69

redqueen, it is not that I think that is great behavior. I've been married to the same JDPriestly Jul 2012 #92

No, dems are no worse than republicans. redqueen Jul 2012 #93

The struggle to enforce marital fidelity without more is just futile in many situations. JDPriestly Jul 2012 #95

Who said anything about enforcing marital fidelity? redqueen Jul 2012 #96

see jd seabeyond Jul 2012 #94

kinda lost me there loli phabay Jul 2012 #57

More that they want to be like teenagers HockeyMom Jul 2012 #78

isnt this a duh.... lol. thanks for pointing this out. but, the teen girl is looking to be the seabeyond Jul 2012 #80

I doubt many teens they see in person dress like that doll. redqueen Jul 2012 #83