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CrispyQ

(40,817 posts)
8. An excellent commentary.
Wed Apr 18, 2012, 09:35 AM
Apr 2012

It explains some of the hatred some men have for women.

snip...

"The thesis is that men “need to be needed”, and in the absence of feeling needed (by women) they will behave badly. . . . Of course, in order for men to feel indispensable, women will need to surrender, become docile and nurturing rather than independent and ambitious. We’ve heard this hooey a million times before, but like supply-side economics, this belief in the “responsibility for vulnerability” transaction remains a difficult bogeyman to slay."

Like Warpy asks above, what human being wants to be in a relationship based on this? A broken one, obviously.

Our culture is a cesspool & we just keep cranking out more & more broken human beings who get in broken relationships & create more broken human beings.

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The term, "men need to be needed” translates to no_hypocrisy Apr 2012 #1
I fear that until we have another generation or two of "feminist-raised" men... hlthe2b Apr 2012 #2
the 80's we were heading in the right direction. 90's i saw something manifesting. seabeyond Apr 2012 #3
Ah yes, that wonderful male entitlement to an unpaid house servant Warpy Apr 2012 #4
lol seabeyond Apr 2012 #5
A successful relationship is a partnership of equals tularetom Apr 2012 #6
my wife "needs" me, the only thing I could probably come up with was to open the pickle jar. seabeyond Apr 2012 #7
Actually 49 years & 8 months - 50 years this August tularetom Apr 2012 #12
congrats! my parents on going on their 68th anniversary in September! Scout Apr 2012 #13
An excellent commentary. CrispyQ Apr 2012 #8
Our culture is a cesspool & we just keep cranking out more & more broken human beings who get in seabeyond Apr 2012 #9
i would always rather be in a relationship where we both WANT each other.... Scout Apr 2012 #10
True nice guys are only entitled to self doubt. One_Life_To_Give Apr 2012 #11
I'm glad it mentioned mail-order brides iverglas Apr 2012 #14
thank you for an excellent post. Scout Apr 2012 #15
Exploiting Beauty in the Workplace seabeyond Apr 2012 #16
You're the sex class and will always be the sex class, redqueen Apr 2012 #17
This is the advice from a female sociology professor? yup seabeyond Apr 2012 #18
and that European stuff ... iverglas Apr 2012 #19
re: that European stuff redqueen Apr 2012 #20
Berlusconi & DSK .... seabeyond Apr 2012 #22
Yep. redqueen Apr 2012 #23
take it a step further in all their sophistication. women lie about being married to not be sexually seabeyond Apr 2012 #21
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