“Feminism made women too picky”: more on male rage, sexual entitlement, and backlash

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15. thank you for an excellent post.

really, the whole door opening thing is just not on my radar at all. i'll open my own doors, thanks. if someone (man or woman) does hold a door for me, i say thanks. i hold the door for the person behind me whether they are man or woman. i get some pretty strange looks from some of the men, but i don't care. it's just politeness, courtesy, no matter who is the hold-er and who is the hold-ee. and i just hate it when, talking about feminism, someone (usually a woman) brings up the door thing "i can't be a feminist, i LIKE it when men open doors for me." ugh.

when i talk about wanting someone, i don't mean it in a strictly sexual sense. not that i DON'T want my husband sexually, of course i do or i wouldn't have stayed with him for years before we married, and now we've been married for 10 years. sexual desire waxes and wanes somewhat over time anyway, so i think you damn well better have more to your relationship than sex (or financial dependency) if you want to be happy in life. my parents and his parents have been married for more than 60 years (mine) and more than 50 years (his) ... it's amazing to me that they've both stayed together, and stayed happy and content, for such a long time. do they disagree sometimes? of course. do they have their bad days/weeks? of course. but they work it out and keep going!

i know at least one time, before i was in the current relationship/marriage, i told one of my fuck-buddies "you know this is JUST sex, right? we're not dating or anything." the look on his face was priceless! he didn't know how to respond to what is usually the line delivered by the man i just wanted to make sure he knew there were no strings attached, and he better not expect me to start baby sitting his kid, or cleaning up his apartment!