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It's very hard. we can do it Nov 2022 #1
I can't even grieve her because I'm too filled with Ilsa Nov 2022 #2
Hugs to you. we can do it Nov 2022 #5
TY. nt Ilsa Nov 2022 #12
I am so sad for you. redwitch Nov 2022 #3
TY. Life requires courage. nt Ilsa Nov 2022 #13
Sending you hugs. MLAA Nov 2022 #4
My MIL's dementia was so bad, she'd scream over being Ilsa Nov 2022 #8
Holy moly! Full time care giving is exhausting, then add the dementia. MLAA Nov 2022 #10
I have an adult son with a severe disability that I am taking care of. Ilsa Nov 2022 #11
Please try and do something nice for yourself soon, even if it is a little thing. MLAA Nov 2022 #19
I'm going to try and wash my hair tonight, get to Ilsa Nov 2022 #20
Sounds like a great plan! A few extra minutes in a hot shower should feel good! MLAA Nov 2022 #21
Good you need to do something for you. Hugs to you Ilsa. You are a better person then me. I couldn't debm55 Nov 2022 #26
The bazaar is a True Blue American Nov 2022 #38
My heart breaks for you questionseverything Nov 2022 #39
TY. Your empathy means a lot. nt Ilsa Nov 2022 #14
I'm so sorry you had to go through all that. Hugs for you dear lady. Srkdqltr Nov 2022 #6
TY. The virtual hugs help. nt Ilsa Nov 2022 #15
What a tragedy, and a very stressful time. brer cat Nov 2022 #7
My heart aches sometimes. TY. nt Ilsa Nov 2022 #16
love and light to you stage left Nov 2022 #36
Just sending you some hugs,,, KarenS Nov 2022 #9
TY for understanding. nt Ilsa Nov 2022 #17
Be very kind to yourself Easterncedar Nov 2022 #18
TY. It feels better that so many people care. nt Ilsa Nov 2022 #43
The title of your post says it all, Easterncedar. calimary Nov 2022 #83
I'm worried about my two pets. Ilsa Nov 2022 #90
Do you think they would take to a new wee one? calimary Nov 2022 #99
No, the male is jealous of other animals getting my attention. Ilsa Nov 2022 #120
Are you a member of a care-givers group in your area? erronis Nov 2022 #22
We used respite, but didn't get any the last Ilsa Nov 2022 #41
I've never had the time to get away. nt Ilsa Nov 2022 #107
For you now, some rest. A lot of rest. Wild blueberry Nov 2022 #23
Thank you! nt Ilsa Nov 2022 #124
So very sorry on the loss of your husband. Fla Dem Nov 2022 #24
I miss him so much. TY. nt Ilsa Nov 2022 #125
I'm sorry for your losses cate94 Nov 2022 #25
Thank you. nt Ilsa Nov 2022 #126
Hang in there sister. You've had a rough road. As some above have suggested, panader0 Nov 2022 #27
I don't know how you did it. BigmanPigman Nov 2022 #28
I don't either. I didn't like her very much, but none Ilsa Nov 2022 #49
Your heart is so big! BigmanPigman Nov 2022 #59
It never seems to go like we hope. 1WorldHope Nov 2022 #29
I plan on offing myself it it looks like Ilsa Nov 2022 #47
We just don't know until we get there is my guess. 1WorldHope Nov 2022 #96
My heart goes out to you. Hope22 Nov 2022 #30
Thank you so much. I'm actually feeling better Ilsa Nov 2022 #122
Soak up the love. Hope22 Nov 2022 #142
I am so sorry. Jay25 Nov 2022 #31
Your kindness in replying makes me feel better for myself & the world. nt Ilsa Nov 2022 #121
So sorry. Wishing you happiness. You deserve it. Joinfortmill Nov 2022 #32
Thank you so much. nt Ilsa Nov 2022 #123
I don't blame you for feeling used and abandoned Warpy Nov 2022 #33
Hubby spent a year getting his mother VA services. The first check Ilsa Nov 2022 #48
Ilsa Hekate Nov 2022 #34
Back atcha! (Thanks) nt Ilsa Nov 2022 #127
I am so sorry, Ilsa. stage left Nov 2022 #35
Oh. mercy. Ilsa Nov 2022 #128
I miss him every day. stage left Nov 2022 #145
Your job is done, take care of yourself now. TNNurse Nov 2022 #37
Thank you. You know, the "your job is done" Ilsa Nov 2022 #129
Take care of yourself, get outside before the weather gets colder. TNNurse Nov 2022 #143
I'm so very sorry. Yorkie Mom Nov 2022 #40
The feelings of death around have been horrible. Ilsa Nov 2022 #130
Please give yourself love and credit for being there for your loved ones. Shoeless Louis Nov 2022 #42
Dayum, you're sweet! Ilsa Nov 2022 #51
Oh my goodness SallyHemmings Nov 2022 #44
Thank you for your kind words. nt Ilsa Nov 2022 #131
I'm so sorry. UniqueUserName Nov 2022 #45
Thank you for the link. I might do some reading, even if I Ilsa Nov 2022 #132
So much sadness all coming together. Take care of yourself. I am so sorry. Scrivener7 Nov 2022 #46
Death hovered over my household for two weeks. Ilsa Nov 2022 #53
Bathing, when you are caring for the old and the dying, is often a luxury. Scrivener7 Nov 2022 #55
you're so kind and thoughtful. nt Ilsa Nov 2022 #60
Keep us posted how you get along. Scrivener7 Nov 2022 #70
I don't blame you CountAllVotes Nov 2022 #50
No one else would/could take her. I wasn't Ilsa Nov 2022 #54
You did the best you could! CountAllVotes Nov 2022 #85
I am so sorry; how stressful these issues have been. I am sad for you. peacebuzzard Nov 2022 #52
That's awful, too much! Yeah, I have some PTSD from start to finish. nt Ilsa Nov 2022 #58
and like you, no one helped me, peacebuzzard Nov 2022 #62
I am so sorry. murielm99 Nov 2022 #56
Thank you so much. nt Ilsa Nov 2022 #133
My late wife was a quadriplegic during our 27-year marriage. I was her primary caregiver. Girard442 Nov 2022 #57
You're a mensch as well. Toda raba. Ilsa Nov 2022 #63
Ilsa louslobbs Nov 2022 #61
TY🙏 nt Ilsa Nov 2022 #64
You make me realize how lucky I was. planetc Nov 2022 #65
I'm so sorry. area51 Nov 2022 #66
My heart goes out to you, Ilsa. frogmarch Nov 2022 #67
I found my husband's body. Ilsa Nov 2022 #68
Please get professional help, Ilsa. frogmarch Nov 2022 #73
I am. I'm under the care of a psychiatrist, Ilsa Nov 2022 #74
I am glad to hear that. I'll be thinking of you frogmarch Nov 2022 #81
You made the world more kind and loving, something we should Ilsa Nov 2022 #72
its not like the movies dembotoz Nov 2022 #69
Those are good points. Ilsa Nov 2022 #71
when you run away do watch your spending. dembotoz Nov 2022 #77
You have every right to feel that way. It is exhausting and often thankless. But you did make others Evolve Dammit Nov 2022 #75
Thank you for your kind words. Ilsa Nov 2022 #134
I believe you have. Evolve Dammit Nov 2022 #140
Oh Ilsa. I'm so sorry for all the loss you have weathered. MontanaMama Nov 2022 #76
Hugs to you, too. Brutal is right. Thank you. nt Ilsa Nov 2022 #135
Hugs to you, my friend. May you find peace and healing. So very sorry for niyad Nov 2022 #78
I'll never use my license again, or Ilsa Nov 2022 #136
Took care of my mother 24/7 for 6 months+ NoMoreRepugs Nov 2022 #79
Thank you. And "good on you" for helping your mom. nt Ilsa Nov 2022 #137
Sharing my heart..... WVGal1963 Nov 2022 #80
Thank you so much. Your empathy Ilsa Nov 2022 #138
I'm 62 and lost my parents long ago. I've always been jealous of those that had their parents around brewens Nov 2022 #82
I hear you. Neither set of parents had much to leave Ilsa Nov 2022 #139
You are everything good about people. My heart is broken for you. Don't be hard on yourself. onecaliberal Nov 2022 #84
Thank you so much. I'm planning Ilsa Nov 2022 #141
Been there, done that - 2x Lithos Nov 2022 #86
TY. Amazing that you could do it twice. Ilsa Nov 2022 #87
LOL Lithos Nov 2022 #98
Reading thru this thread has given me a whole new outlook Deuxcents Nov 2022 #88
TY. nt Ilsa Nov 2022 #89
@Ilsa raising2moredems Nov 2022 #91
TY for the kind words. nt Ilsa Nov 2022 #92
I've been waiting all evening to reply to this.... Trueblue Texan Nov 2022 #93
thank you. nt Ilsa Nov 2022 #104
You are not alone. Simeon Salus Nov 2022 #94
This message was self-deleted by its author Rocknation Nov 2022 #95
In the words of the venerable Bette Davis... pazzyanne Nov 2022 #97
Lisa, I am so sorry. You've had so much loss. AllyCat Nov 2022 #100
I'm so sorry. SleeplessinSoCal Nov 2022 #101
thank you. nt Ilsa Nov 2022 #105
I'm so sorry for your loss LittleGirl Nov 2022 #102
I'm so sorry Ilsa Nov 2022 #106
I'm sorry! It's indeed VERY difficult! Buckeye_Democrat Nov 2022 #103
I don't believe in 'heaven' and 'hell', but there has GOT to be some special reward for caregivers 70sEraVet Nov 2022 #108
You are an amazing woman, llsa. sueh Nov 2022 #109
Thank you! nt Ilsa Nov 2022 #144
You were there for them Marthe48 Nov 2022 #110
I have cared for my own father, my mother, and my husband, the last 5 years of his life appleannie1 Nov 2022 #111
I took care of my MIL precisely for that reason. Ilsa Nov 2022 #113
I am soo sorry. appleannie1 Nov 2022 #148
Thank you for your king words. Ilsa Nov 2022 #149
There is nothing to be ashamed about. You wrote it beautifully. LiberalFighter Nov 2022 #112
My deepest sympathies. CrispyQ Nov 2022 #114
I echo these comments. cilla4progress Nov 2022 #115
Such kind comments and good wishes. Thank you. BTW, Ilsa Nov 2022 #119
Just want to join in with others' wishes: snot Nov 2022 #116
I missed this post yesterday, but saw your post about your grieving dogs... hlthe2b Nov 2022 #117
Thank you. Weather permitting, I intend to take them out tomorrow. nt Ilsa Nov 2022 #118
This message was self-deleted by its author Rocknation Nov 2022 #146
We didn't even ATTEMPT "do-it-yourself" end-of-life home care Rocknation Nov 2022 #147
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