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Elder-caregivers
In reply to the discussion: I will never be an elder-caregiver again. [View all]Rocknation
(44,576 posts)147. We didn't even ATTEMPT "do-it-yourself" end-of-life home care
Last edited Tue Dec 12, 2023, 08:46 AM - Edit history (23)
because it seemed that when it comes to babysitting terminally ill loved ones literally to death with no qualifications, no training, no job experience, and no pay -- well, what could possibly go wrong?
We said that if our mother did not yet qualify for assisted living, nursing home, or hospice care, either they would provide her with 24 hours' worth of professional home health care, or we would provide her with a lawyer. She got 24-hour home attendant care until she qualified for hospice.
My most sincere condolences for all your losses.
Rocknation
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Good you need to do something for you. Hugs to you Ilsa. You are a better person then me. I couldn't
debm55
Nov 2022
#26
Please give yourself love and credit for being there for your loved ones.
Shoeless Louis
Nov 2022
#42
My late wife was a quadriplegic during our 27-year marriage. I was her primary caregiver.
Girard442
Nov 2022
#57
You have every right to feel that way. It is exhausting and often thankless. But you did make others
Evolve Dammit
Nov 2022
#75
I'm 62 and lost my parents long ago. I've always been jealous of those that had their parents around
brewens
Nov 2022
#82
You are everything good about people. My heart is broken for you. Don't be hard on yourself.
onecaliberal
Nov 2022
#84
I don't believe in 'heaven' and 'hell', but there has GOT to be some special reward for caregivers
70sEraVet
Nov 2022
#108
I have cared for my own father, my mother, and my husband, the last 5 years of his life
appleannie1
Nov 2022
#111