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Elder-caregivers

alittlelark

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14. My grandmother thought I was her daughter -

Reply to NurseJackie (Original post)

Fri Nov 29, 2019, 05:50 PM

Nov 2019

The one that died when she was 4 years old - for the last 3 years of her severe alzheimers. I was born on her birthday 40 years later.

I stopped correcting her.

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Should a loved-one who has dementia be corrected when they are wrong about something? [View all] NurseJackie Nov 2019 OP

Hugs to you and sister TEB Nov 2019 #1

My mom asked us when her father was coming to visit RainCaster Nov 2019 #2

My experience is to go along with their misapprehensions. no_hypocrisy Nov 2019 #3

I think it depends on the moment. For example, femmedem Nov 2019 #4

Thank you. This was helpful. NurseJackie Feb 2020 #21

Not an expert SallyHemmings Nov 2019 #5

My mother has advanced Alzheimer's and I say absolutely do not correct lettucebe Nov 2019 #6

I agree. 3Hotdogs Nov 2019 #11

I agree do not correct them. blueinredohio Nov 2019 #13

I remind my mom that she IS home, pnwest Nov 2019 #7

My wife facilitates an Alzheimer's Support Group Dave in VA Nov 2019 #8

Unfortunately I have dealt with this. DURHAM D Nov 2019 #9

Beautiful, tender story. She continued teaching you wisdom about being present in the moment. JudyM Dec 2019 #15

THANK YOU, EVERYONE... for sharing your suggestions and experiences. NurseJackie Nov 2019 #10

Side topic. Bring them dolls. Men and women both enjoy dolls. 3Hotdogs Nov 2019 #12

My grandmother thought I was her daughter - alittlelark Nov 2019 #14

Play it by ear. JudyM Dec 2019 #16

Thank you for the feedback. NurseJackie Dec 2019 #17

Sure... it was a labor of love... JudyM Dec 2019 #18

I work with the elderly... Trueblue Texan Jan 2020 #19

I very much appreciate your insights and comments... NurseJackie Jan 2020 #20