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SheltieLover

(57,073 posts)
16. That could be it!
Wed Aug 5, 2020, 07:19 PM
Aug 2020

My dad was a real character who passed away 12 yrs ago, near age 89.

Each day, he would grab the newspaper, go immediately to obits & make hash marks on a running list he kept hanging on fridge of people he had known who had passed.

Not saying this is true of everyone, but I think loss has a tremendous impact.

Maybe you can help him by chatting about his most outstanding accomplishments.

In Eric Erickson's psych theory, people go through 8 stages, generally speaking. The last one is end of life review. If people are not content with what they have accomplished, they can become quite depressed.

https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/books/NBK556096/

Perhaps doc can refer to tele mental health provider?

Just a thought.

Do old people tend to sleep a lot? [View all] CountAllVotes Aug 2020 OP
Many medications Ohiogal Aug 2020 #1
He is not taking any medications much CountAllVotes Aug 2020 #3
Not in my experience SheltieLover Aug 2020 #2
Thanks, I'll let you know! CountAllVotes Aug 2020 #4
Sounds like could be depression SheltieLover Aug 2020 #6
He has had a lot of loss lately CountAllVotes Aug 2020 #11
That could be it! SheltieLover Aug 2020 #16
If he snores that much, it could impact quality of sleep. Hoyt Aug 2020 #5
The snoring is loud CountAllVotes Aug 2020 #8
Sleep apnea? SheltieLover Aug 2020 #18
Glad you are going to the doctor Kitchari Aug 2020 #7
It is very difficult for me CountAllVotes Aug 2020 #10
Oh, my Kitchari Aug 2020 #12
Snoring can be a sign of sleep apnea DBoon Aug 2020 #9
They may nap a bit more during the day, but unless they are on certain meds, that is not normal. hlthe2b Aug 2020 #13
This same doctor did a B.S. ZOOM appt. as a "Well Person Physical" in June CountAllVotes Aug 2020 #15
As others have commented, you truly have to take care of yourself first... hlthe2b Aug 2020 #19
I see a nurse practitioner for my own care CountAllVotes Aug 2020 #20
Maybe he's bored. LakeArenal Aug 2020 #14
He can only see out of one eye and he is about 60% deaf CountAllVotes Aug 2020 #17
Sounds like my dad. LakeArenal Aug 2020 #21
I am sleeping more in my old age Chainfire Aug 2020 #22
More satisfying than sleep CountAllVotes Aug 2020 #29
I would be concerned that his problem is clinical depression Chainfire Aug 2020 #30
Do not take his inattention personally. Most likely he cannot help his present condition. No Vested Interest Aug 2020 #31
Can he go for walks? Talk to doctor about a CPAP machine...he may need a lot of sleep Karadeniz Aug 2020 #23
My husband is 85 and while he is staying in bed longer MLAA Aug 2020 #24
Likely that sleep apnea is at least part of the problem. No Vested Interest Aug 2020 #25
A few questions for you... Trueblue Texan Aug 2020 #26
I don't know CountAllVotes Aug 2020 #27
Update: CountAllVotes Aug 2020 #28
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