I've had eating problems and gastric bypass and lost 60 pounds BUT now I am

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3. I'm not a Doctor or psychologist but was a friend to both

A gastric bypass recipient and an anorexic. What I'm going to say I mean in a nurturing way, not in a attacking or judging manner.

You still have a disorder because your weight, does not change your thinking or attitude. You are paying too close attention to what your friend is doing with her food, while your going through thoughts about food, weight or your own insecurities, during the visit. Why are you not living in the moment discussing life, and if you are brave enough to be a friend, discuss your thoughts about food, body image, and recovery with her.

I had a friend with bulimia and anorexia, she hid behind the shame of it, it wasn't a competition with others. It was about control, and until she was in control of decision making, she was not in control of the disease.

I had another friend that was morbidly obese, had the gastric bypass, lost tons of weight and would criticize anybody 10lbs over weight, calling them shame names. She was not nice, but she admitted that she had been over eating, and was angry because that was making her sick. She eventually gained all +some weight back. She said she mad at people she saw eating or snacking because she got sick from doing that after the bypass.

One thing my step-dad used to say, "nobody's getting outta here alive". I took that as...we all have our problems, we were born here, and will die here. So, have some love and understanding before judging, and that includes... yourself.