I am a slim & healthy Pescetarian, (Vegan & Seafood) and mother of five healthy, vibrant & active youngsters - While my Morbidly Obese Husband, (their father), eats...and eats....and eats.....Despite his YEARS of promises about "Tomorrow" & "His Next Day-Off", "His Next Vacation", etc......15 years ago, his father succumbed to complications from diabetes at 56, (looking more like he was 86), as did ALL of the men in his family before him....his mother, currently 71, now lives with us, incapable of caring for herself, as diabetes ravages what's left of her alarmingly, unhealthy body. With complete and utter denial, coupled with a smug arrogance that makes me want to shake-the-Hell out of BOTH of them.....they sit, side-by-side, for HOURS in their La-Z-Boys, watching Me-Tv, whenever husband isn't at work @ his 12-hr-a day, high-stress, job. At 42, he's been on Blood-Pressure medication for YEARS, hospitalized several times for health problems and he's WELL on his way to diabetes at 5'10", 325lbs, (maybe more). Denial, Denial, Denial....is the name of (their) game, and at this point, I've got one-foot-out-the-door with 4 of our 5 kids still living at home. I love him, but I just can't spend the rest of my life with a man who doesn't LOVE or RESPECT HIMSELF......He told me everything I wanted to hear 18 years ago when I married him and I fell for it, Hook, Line & Sinker.....But how much LONGER am I supposed to wait around for this man to start keeping his WORD?! Knowing his family's deplorable health history, on BOTH sides, I've told him - Straight Out, "If I Were YOU, I'd Be Running Around the Neighborhood Like a Clown was Chasing Me With a Bloody Knife!" Cruel - Yes, I know.....we've tried EVERY approach, believe me......but 18 years-worth of nothing but EMPTY promises, while trying to raise FIVE children and educate them with the BEST insights - including NUTRITIONAL - a minor in my Bachelor's of Science, the stress is beginning to take its toll on me and the children.....Meanwhile, my husband continues to symbolize the antithesis of everything I have tried to instill in them - Saddest-of-all, the youngest child now 13, they are now old enough to observe this themselves.....We all love him very much, but we can't bear witness to his downward spiral much longer. What to DO?! (Tears)
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