What would YOU do if you were in Anita Hill's shoes?

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161. Don't put words in my mouth

"Resolution" means whatever the hell SHE is looking for in order for her to be satisfied with whatever he says or does so that she is able to move forward and heal. That doesn't require forgiveness unless she wants it to.

I am a survivor of long term severe domestic abuse and multiple rapes so I understand better than most. I also understand non-apologies since I have had to sever ties with two siblings for horrendous behavior towards me and upon giving them a chance to fix things I received the lame "I'm sorry IF I hurt you" garbage. I was very clear about what I needed from them, right down to explaining that a non-apology was unacceptable because they were not taking responsibility for what they did. So yeah, I have been exactly where Anita Hill is and I understand that she did nothing wrong and didn't deserve how she was treated and yes, I do think he owes her a better apology than he has given. I also don't believe that he understands what it is he is doing wrong with his apology. At this point, IF she wants a real apology and he is trying to apologize and WANTS to make it right then she just needs to tell him what he is doing wrong. The fact that she is saying she's not satisfied without doing that means that the lack of a resolution is on her. She's fortunate that he actually WANTS to make it better. I don't have that luxury and it's really difficult to heal emotional trauma caused by someone else you are constantly reminded of without a real apology because it's very difficult to forgive someone who is not sorry. Joe Biden is sorry but he doesn't know how to apologize properly. She has the opportunity to do what I will never be able to do because the person who played a role in bringing great harm to her life wants to make it right. And yes, at this point I'm growing a bit irritated with her for just complaining about it publicly instead of just telling him exactly what he can say or do to satisfy her. If there is nothing he can do or say then she should just say so and move on.

In the future you probably should not assume to know to what extent anyone understands a situation.