The utter STUPIDITY of "Always believe the woman"----

[frazzled]

73. But if she felt uncomfortable, it doesn't necessarily mean it was wrong

There are actions that are universally accepted to be dead wrong under any circumstances. Say, locking your office door and sexually assaulting a subordinate (Matt Lauer); inviting an employee or potential job seeker to your home to discuss business and then coming out in an open robe with your junk exposed (Charlie Rose, Harvey Weinstein); jerking off in front of your employees (Louis CK).

No questions here, and this is what #MeToo is, or at least should be about. About power, aggression, assault.

Now, actions like putting your arm around someone during a photo op or touching their shoulder and giving the top of their head a kiss before going on stage (go for it!) are much more debatable actions. Some women would be absolutely fine with either of these things, while some others might feel “uncomfortable.” But I, personally, would not consider either of those actions wrong in themselves. There are huggy people (they may hug men as well as women) and people who are touchy about having their space invaded. In such cases, I would simply say that there is a clash of sensibilities. But objectively speaking, in these public actions of hugging or touching where there is no power imbalance or threat of job security, or attempt at physical assault, or gross indecency, your discomfort is just that: yours.

I believe Flores felt uncomfortable and at the same time that it doesn’t mean Biden did anything wrong.

Look, when people feed me a dish reeking with cilantro (which I cannot stand), I feel uncomfortable, but I don’t think they did anything intentionally to offend me. Frankly, it’s my problem, and I can’t expect others to know it grosses me out.

I’m also used to being kissed on the cheek(s) or hugged when introduced to people (it’s common in our circles), while other people might get freaked. But it’s not criminal ... it’s a social custom quite normal to some but totally creepy to others.

We have to use discrimination in these various cases. If we don’t, we risk real cases of sexual aggression being normalized or ignored.