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Stonepounder

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99. Thanks for this, frazzled.

Tue Apr 2, 2019, 01:54 PM

Apr 2019

There is an entire spectrum of behaviors from 'touchy-feely' to 'leave me alone'. I'm a guy who is pretty much touch adverse. With the exception of those with whom I am in a close relationship, or a handshake I am uncomfortable with hugs, arms around my shoulders, and so on.

So, do I freak out and talk to the news about how 'someone did that to me'? Of course not. I can pretty well read intentions and even though I get uncomfortable at times I can tell that the other person is offering something with the best of intentions.

This is called being human. We aren't all alike. We don't all share the same emotional reaction to things. If you are really uncomfortable with something you need to speak out about it to the other person ASAP. Not wait years and then accuse them of something 'inappropriate'. I would suspect that if you do speak to the other person, about 99.9% of the time you will get an immediate apology.

Done and done.

If I were to vote in a presidential
primary today, I would vote for: Joe Biden

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The utter STUPIDITY of "Always believe the woman"---- [View all] Atticus Apr 2019 OP

Neanderthal. It's not that simple. ugh ugh Kurt V. Apr 2019 #1

My actual reaction to your post was to laugh, but I don't want to fill a page with "Ha-Ha"s, so Atticus Apr 2019 #8

i thought it was funny. :) . thnx for the non-alert. i have so much respect for you now. Kurt V. Apr 2019 #127

Nothing Neanderthal about it. Polly Hennessey Apr 2019 #128

I'm not saying it should be. but it's been the other way for ever. Kurt V. Apr 2019 #130

Two wrongs don't make a right. IluvPitties Apr 2019 #132

The goal us to stop Biden at all costs left-of-center2012 Apr 2019 #2

Believe unless there is Good reason not to. crazytown Apr 2019 #3

Take seriously and investigate qazplm135 Apr 2019 #13

This message was self-deleted by its author left-of-center2012 Apr 2019 #23

That is my take on this as well! pazzyanne Apr 2019 #24

That's what "believe" means initially...take seriously enough to investigate & listen to both sides. InAbLuEsTaTe Apr 2019 #69

Reread your post. Look up "believe" in any dictionary. Aren't you embarrassed? nt Atticus Apr 2019 #86

Not in the least... fits perfectly! You proved my point... thanks!! InAbLuEsTaTe Apr 2019 #88

Uh-huh. nt Atticus Apr 2019 #91

wow qazplm135 Apr 2019 #94

maybe to you qazplm135 Apr 2019 #87

I don't believe you. InAbLuEsTaTe Apr 2019 #89

right qazplm135 Apr 2019 #93

Thank you. It can 't be stated any better. brush Apr 2019 #108

Umm no. Don't automatically believe shit! Dream Girl Apr 2019 #30

That's guilty until proven innocent. defacto7 Apr 2019 #97

... handmade34 Apr 2019 #4

Similar to: no_hypocrisy Apr 2019 #5

Been there Sherman A1 Apr 2019 #9

I'm truly sorry to know you had to go through that. no_hypocrisy Apr 2019 #11

It was ugly but doesn't seem to compare Sherman A1 Apr 2019 #14

Thanks. I believe each time I see false allegations, part of my heart dies. no_hypocrisy Apr 2019 #22

I am sure the reasons vary with the individuals and situations Sherman A1 Apr 2019 #25

Some people just see an advantage treestar Apr 2019 #113

Ha! No way jberryhill Apr 2019 #56

Wish I would have known at the time Sherman A1 Apr 2019 #77

Unfortunately PatSeg Apr 2019 #62

From the moment that started being said I knew it would be weaponized Trenzalore Apr 2019 #6

This. The first time I heard it I facepalmed. localroger Apr 2019 #15

Which is worrisome because millennia of NOT believing Squinch Apr 2019 #43

The two allegations Trenzalore Apr 2019 #44

But neither ever said that their experiences amounted to assault. In fact, Flores has said Squinch Apr 2019 #54

So they question is: Why did she all of a sudden make a big deal of it? luvtheGWN Apr 2019 #100

Flores is no shrinking violet... louis c Apr 2019 #101

The solution is not automatically believing. treestar Apr 2019 #114

I always believe the accusations should be taken seriously Sherman A1 Apr 2019 #7

The court of public opinion is not a criminal court fountainofyouth Apr 2019 #19

Sure hope you feel the same if you're ever charged or accused. bitterross Apr 2019 #21

Precisely Sherman A1 Apr 2019 #31

If anyone photographed me doing this fountainofyouth Apr 2019 #33

The woman in that pic has not said she felt uncomfortable. bitterross Apr 2019 #38

Also everyone is saying its the woman's responsibility to Squinch Apr 2019 #39

She didn't feel uncomfortable. I know her and so does my family and she told us that she smirkymonkey Apr 2019 #45

I won't question you in that particular case fountainofyouth Apr 2019 #48

And I don't think his motives were any more improper in the other smirkymonkey Apr 2019 #59

THIS is the problem with many of these "if" posts. The woman in that photo DID NOT say Atticus Apr 2019 #65

That woman clearly expxlained that she was NOT threatened. GemDigger Apr 2019 #70

That is specifically a woman who said she didn't? treestar Apr 2019 #116

You move the goalposts LanternWaste Apr 2019 #82

The Court of Public Opinion is certainly not a criminal court Sherman A1 Apr 2019 #34

Photos alone don't prove anything. treestar Apr 2019 #115

Instead of "Always Believe the Woman," We Should, Instead, "Always Take Women Seriously" dlk Apr 2019 #10

Exactly n/t Bradshaw3 Apr 2019 #32

Yes, the Joe Biden article w/ Ash Carter's wife was a pure smear job and completely smirkymonkey Apr 2019 #46

When the next Republican is the accused, all here will revert back to "Always believe the woman" SFnomad Apr 2019 #12

The hypocrisy is heartbreaking. Squinch Apr 2019 #36

"Somehow we all knew Trump talking about how he grabbed women without their permission Atticus Apr 2019 #72

Did he grab a woman without her permission? Squinch Apr 2019 #79

As the saying goes: "I could explain it to you, but I can't understand it for you." We differ on Atticus Apr 2019 #90

Nope. You won't be reading any more posts from me. I'm out. Squinch Apr 2019 #92

Okay. nt Atticus Apr 2019 #96

I disagree with this characterization. I really do. yardwork Apr 2019 #122

Perhaps that will be the case for many Sherman A1 Apr 2019 #37

If you say so n/t SFnomad Apr 2019 #40

I do Sherman A1 Apr 2019 #41

The Republicans will circle the wagons Trenzalore Apr 2019 #49

False, stop accusing us of that treestar Apr 2019 #117

I've never seen "all" state anything like "always believe the woman." yardwork Apr 2019 #118

K&R reACTIONary Apr 2019 #16

"Believe women...until they accuse someone I like!" is the takeaway here Tarc Apr 2019 #17

As the OP does not reference ANY person or candidate, please explain where you Atticus Apr 2019 #20

Who the OP, i.e. you, was referring to, was quite obvious Tarc Apr 2019 #81

Ah, yes, the Limbaugh method : "Never mind what you actually SAID. I'll tell you Atticus Apr 2019 #83

What was down to Franken was a shame Trenzalore Apr 2019 #28

What was done to Franken was of his own doing Tarc Apr 2019 #80

Bullshit Trenzalore Apr 2019 #98

Spent a lot of time on that riposte? Tarc Apr 2019 #125

I think I would violate terms of service if I responded more. Trenzalore Apr 2019 #131

I accept your concession Tarc Apr 2019 #135

Nice straw man (or straw woman) argument fountainofyouth Apr 2019 #18

The nightly news led tonight with this Trenzalore Apr 2019 #26

Well, I'm not the news director at NBC fountainofyouth Apr 2019 #35

Here is my problem Trenzalore Apr 2019 #42

Would this happen in an ideal world? Maybe fountainofyouth Apr 2019 #47

I am not voting for him unless he is the nominee Trenzalore Apr 2019 #50

Not following fountainofyouth Apr 2019 #51

Her preference for candidate is not Joe Biden Trenzalore Apr 2019 #52

DU has sunk very, very low over this. Squinch Apr 2019 #27

Yes it has. n/t whopis01 Apr 2019 #120

I'm sorry.. but it Is Stupid. Cha Apr 2019 #29

Yes, it is profoundly stupid peggysue2 Apr 2019 #55

And, here she is trying to smear Hillary in 2017.. After the GE. Cha Apr 2019 #61

How nice! peggysue2 Apr 2019 #66

Welcome.. Cha Apr 2019 #67

+1 Little Star Apr 2019 #109

Her experience of it doesn't need to be factual, merely her impressions onit2day Apr 2019 #58

"Her experience of it doesn't need to be factual, merely her impressions" LongtimeAZDem Apr 2019 #63

Amazing, isn't it? nt Atticus Apr 2019 #71

Exactly. This is what we Cha Apr 2019 #78

If she claims she felt uncomfortable, then it's not a lie IronLionZion Apr 2019 #53

But if she felt uncomfortable, it doesn't necessarily mean it was wrong frazzled Apr 2019 #73

Good Post, Recommend. nt UniteFightBack Apr 2019 #74

Thanks for this, frazzled. Stonepounder Apr 2019 #99

Well said Yo_Mama_Been_Loggin Apr 2019 #134

It is possible that it could be treestar Apr 2019 #119

I think she didn't feel uncomfortable and she is lying and she hurts me too and Demsrule86 Apr 2019 #121

I applaud your bravery in posting this. bitterross Apr 2019 #57

I totally agree with you. I'm a woman who can discern between predation and affection. Texin Apr 2019 #64

Yes, good parenting does seem to be the solution to a lot of things. bitterross Apr 2019 #68

I agree completely. K&R highplainsdem Apr 2019 #60

Believe women. PERIOD. nt MadDAsHell Apr 2019 #75

. nt Atticus Apr 2019 #85

Take women seriously Sugarcoated Apr 2019 #110

No not a politically motivated liar who uses me to against a candidate she does not support. Demsrule86 Apr 2019 #123

Including the SRA claimants? JCannon Apr 2019 #129

Women never lie? What about take every accusation seriously? IluvPitties Apr 2019 #133

Non sequitur. nt fleabiscuit Apr 2019 #76

Once more, with clarity. nt Atticus Apr 2019 #84

I'm going to believe the woman until I start smelling bullshit. Autumn Apr 2019 #95

I never thought I'd quote Reagan Harker Apr 2019 #102

I am at a point with regard to sexual assault that I am prepared to accept some draconian measures t Perrenial Voter Apr 2019 #103

I have just 2 words.. cannabis_flower Apr 2019 #104

And "backwards B girl." yardwork Apr 2019 #124

This won't only discredit Biden, or Franken murielm99 Apr 2019 #105

I so agree. I think Franken wasn't given a fair hearing, that said I don't think most women ... marble falls Apr 2019 #106

Publish the Republican Offenders, too moonseller66 Apr 2019 #107

I agree: it is just not justice treestar Apr 2019 #111

Well said. yardwork Apr 2019 #112

Marking to read up on this. underpants Apr 2019 #126