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Feeling so vulnerable and weirded-out...

I'm married to an only child with issues of his own, but still a woman who was effectively shunned and mostly estranged from all members of my family of origin for the last 30 years. It's been difficult grieving those relationships as "pseudo-deaths." I was financially unable to attend my father's funeral notwithstanding my obedience to my unrepentant mother's choice that she never speak to me again. I do consider her choice about that so very toxic, and I remain so very vulnerable to the family dynamics. The siblings took up her side so neither they nor I have had much contact since then either. I don't know my niece; and they don't know my kids. I am the "black sheep" who wasn't able to enable my "better angel" and continue to bear Mom's treatment of me and our children in word and deed, her considered choice that I honor. I work on self-esteem" daily for issues I consider, at my age, unrepairable.

Several weeks ago, my brother dialed the "safe" number of his niece, my daughter. I returned the call to learn that he was in the hospital with conditions that would make his situation terminal, and my 92-year-old mother had sometime previously had a small stroke and was in "rehab." He's been her caretaker in her home because he had never left home. even during my father's last illness. Surely my Mom had help tending Dad at home and thereafter. Both my sister and I live OOT (in different cities) with our families; we both have family issues, then, of our own. He's made her his "person." I've since spoken with both, who say they want reconcilliation, so I asked to be kept updated.

At a particularly difficult time, long ago, my DH asked my brother to hold a couple things, and he agreed. We recently found out he still has them. We would like to reclaim them. Both brother and his person were surprised and nervous that I still had a key to my family home. I would like to reconcile with my siblings, and I've initiated some calling but have not made any solid plans for an in-person visit. DH's not enthused to take the only running beater on a day trip; the nearby kids are really busy and don't claim a lot of interest in stepping into what's been the "family" mud puddle throughout most of their lives. It doesn't appear that either brother or mom will return to their home. For a time, both were at the same rehab facility. As of today, my brother has gone to another facility, a Hospice in-patient facility, to receive palliative care for the possible 0-5 months. Can I trust these are authentic requests for reconciliation pre- double funerals of brother and mom in the hands of my brother and my sister? I'm confused and grieving all over again, but THEY want the moral support! My experience in relationships whisper, "No good deed goes unpunished." Can there be a crack in the wall - I need to be careful to hope for all sorts of miracles, to say the right things, to act in all the ways they expect? so guaranteed, I still feel between the rock and the hard places all over again about exactly who deserves support in bad times?
Posted by Backseat Driver | Tue May 4, 2021, 12:53 PM (4 replies)

Interior sets new path through land maze

https://indiancountrytoday.com/news/interior-department-makes-land-into-trust-easier
ALIYAH CHAVEZ -22 HOURS AGO
Interior sets new path through land maze
The federal agency announced new processes to “untangle” and advance the process of putting land into trust


After hearing some tribes completed fee to trust applications, then waited years to hear back, the U.S. Department of Interior is deciding to take action.

The agency announced major steps this week to allow for more straightforward guidelines for tribal nations applying to put land into trust.

“No tribe should have an application that lingers for years and years and years,” a speaker from the office of the secretary said.

On Tuesday, Interior Secretary Deb Haaland, Laguna Pueblo, issued a new secretarial order which says fee to trust applications will now be reviewed and authorized by regional directors of the Bureau of Indian Affairs, instead of the previous process that required applications to be reviewed through Interior’s headquarters.

According to the Indian Reorganization Act of 1934, the interior secretary is authorized to acquire land into trust for federally recognized tribes.

The changes are effective immediately, though the order will not apply to gaming applications, the Interior department said. [snip]

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Long informative article about needed changes to this process!
Posted by Backseat Driver | Thu Apr 29, 2021, 04:52 PM (1 replies)

I was abused back in the early '50s apparently

If you read it to the end, only then will you get the punch line! Here I thought i could sue because I ended up too short to be a flight attendant, but what's a mother to do when formula in cans wasn't yet invented with all the right stuff, I suppose.
And now I'm ticked off!

https://www.fda.gov/food/alerts-advisories-safety-information/fda-advises-parents-and-caregivers-not-make-or-feed-homemade-infant-formula-infants?utm_medium=email&utm_source=govdelivery

February 24, 2021

Audience
Parents and other caregivers of infants who make their own homemade infant formula using a recipe.
Product
Homemade infant formulas
Purpose
The FDA is advising parents and caregivers to not make or feed homemade infant formula to infants. [snip]

You have to read to the end to discover what's really the problem. My mom got a recipe from our family doctor, I'm quite sure, back in the day, but I don't think THIS was ever in her recipe!!!!
Posted by Backseat Driver | Wed Feb 24, 2021, 08:51 PM (1 replies)

My old girl died last night

Possibly a power supply issue.
Posted by Backseat Driver | Tue Feb 23, 2021, 12:33 PM (6 replies)

Another "emergency" situation - Humanity Is Flushing Away One of Life's Essential Elements

We broke Phophorous


First is was loss of topsoil, then it was how much better cover crops would suck up CO2 than switching from fossil fuels; here's the newest "scarcity" in the rebuilding of farm fields in which we grow our foods

https://www.theatlantic.com/science/archive/2021/02/phosphorus-pollution-fertilizer/617937/

In a field of sugar beets outside Cambridge, England, Simon Kelly stands above a narrow trench gouged into the rusty earth, roughly 15 feet deep and 30 feet long. “Welcome to the pit,” says Kelly, a bespectacled, white-bearded geologist in a straw hat and khaki shirt. “You’re seeing something that hasn’t been seen in a long time.”

The rock layers exposed in the trench date back more than 100 million years, to when England lay submerged beneath a warm, shallow sea. Kelly—a researcher at a nonprofit geology consultancy—specializes in marine fossils of that era (“Dicranodonta vagans!” he exclaims when I find a stone pocked with the impressions of tiny clam-like shells, which he asks to keep). That’s why he had an excavator dig this trench in 2015, and why he has spent countless hours since then sifting through its trove of treasures. “Going out to Simon’s hole, are you?” Kelly’s wife deadpanned when I picked him up on the morning of my visit.

I had come because “Simon’s hole” also contained objects of more recent historical significance: dull, round pebbles that once helped feed the United Kingdom. By the 1800s, centuries of cultivation had sapped Britain’s soils of nutrients, including phosphorus—an essential element for crops. At the time, manure and bones were common sources of phosphorus, and when the country exhausted its domestic reserves, it looked elsewhere for more.

“Great Britain is like a ghoul, searching the continents,” wrote Justus von Liebig, the German chemist who first identified the critical role of phosphorus in agriculture. “Already in her eagerness for bones, she has turned up the battlefields of Leipzig, of Waterloo, and of the Crimea; already from the catacombs of Sicily she has carried away the skeletons of many successive generations.” [snip]



Posted by Backseat Driver | Tue Feb 9, 2021, 04:51 PM (0 replies)

I just want to say thank you to those that sent those hearts my way! eom/

Posted by Backseat Driver | Tue Feb 9, 2021, 01:18 AM (0 replies)

ICIJ nominated for Nobel Peace Prize for combating dark money flows

https://www.icij.org/investigations/fincen-files/icij-nominated-for-nobel-peace-prize-for-combating-dark-money-flows/?utm_source=ICIJ&utm_campaign=8a8e2f82a8-20210202_WeeklyEmail&utm_medium=email&utm_term=0_992ecfdbb2-8a8e2f82a8-83351998&ct=t()

By Ben Hallman
Image: Bernhard Ludewig
February 1, 2021

Three Norwegian lawmakers have nominated the International Consortium of Investigative Journalists and the Global Alliance for Tax Justice for a Nobel Peace Prize, citing the organizations’ “success in building global alliances” to increase transparency in the global financial system.

“The outstanding work of the ICIJ to expose illicit flows, and the mammoth achievement of the GATJ to build national and international pressure for accountability and fair taxation — warrants attention, recognition and support,” the letter says. “They are, independently and by different means, trailblazers in creating a world where financial incentives for conflict, wars, human rights abuses and violence are non-existent. These courageous journalists and civil society organizations play a critical role in documenting corruption and Illicit flows, often while putting their lives in peril in the process.”

ICIJ, based in Washington, D.C., is a nonprofit newsroom that works closely with global media partners to report on corruption and other abuses of power. The nomination recognizes nearly a decade of ICIJ investigations that have revealed widespread abuses of offshore havens by oligarchs, political elites and criminal groups, and the role that global banks and other Western institutions play in enabling money laundering and tax dodging.

These include FinCEN Files, which published in September with BuzzFeed News and other media partners in more than 80 countries, and Panama Papers, ICIJ’s 2016 Pulitzer Prize-winning investigation, which sparked new laws and criminal investigations around the world.

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Posted by Backseat Driver | Wed Feb 3, 2021, 09:06 AM (0 replies)

Sen. Rob Portman announces he will not seek reelection in 2022

Source: Associated Press



Republican Sen. Rob Portman of Ohio said Monday he won’t seek reelection and plans to end a career in federal government spanning more than three decades.

Portman’s announcement comes the same day the Senate is receiving the House impeachment article against former Republican President Donald Trump. While some Republican senators have criticized going ahead with the trial next month with Trump out of office, Portman said last week he would listen to both sides before making a decision on how to vote.

Portman, who turned 65 last month, is among establishment Republicans who clearly struggled with supporting Trump. Once dubbed “The Loyal Soldier” in a front-page profile story in his hometown Cincinnati Enquirer, Portman usually supported Trump in carefully worded statements. After Trump called the presidential election rigged, Portman said Trump had a right to a probe of any irregularities.

But in the immediate aftermath of the Jan. 6 insurrection at the U.S. Capitol, Portman said Trump needed to go on national TV to address his supporters and tell them to refrain from violence. [snip]

Read more: https://www.10tv.com/article/news/politics/portman-announces-he-will-not-seek-reelection-in-2022/530-37a0c24b-9a83-405d-a17b-813b2761d224
Posted by Backseat Driver | Mon Jan 25, 2021, 12:23 PM (8 replies)

Bye-bye Senator Portman

https://www.10tv.com/article/news/politics/portman-announces-he-will-not-seek-reelection-in-2022/530-37a0c24b-9a83-405d-a17b-813b2761d224

Sen. Rob Portman announces he will not seek reelection in 2022
Portman was elected handily twice to the U.S. Senate, but was considered likely to face primary opposition in 2022.

Republican Sen. Rob Portman of Ohio said Monday he won’t seek reelection and plans to end a career in federal government spanning more than three decades.



Posted by Backseat Driver | Mon Jan 25, 2021, 12:17 PM (3 replies)

SyFy Hope for Humans?

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Posted by Backseat Driver | Sat Jan 16, 2021, 03:54 PM (2 replies)
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