Not Heidi
Not Heidi's JournalProblem at home - got advice?
My wife and I share a four-bedroom house with my sister and her 34-year-old daughter, whom I'll call Carol. Carol has ADHD and severe - severe - anxiety disorder and maybe some undiagnosed problems. She's incapable of working outside the home.
My niece has only two chores.
One is to take out the trash/recycling and to take the bins to and from the curb each week. The other is to care for our five cats. This includes feeding them and keeping their water fountain clean and filled. It includes keeping the litter boxes clean. It includes cleaning up where a cat has vomited or has voided outside a box. Finally, it includes administering meds when they're required.
The only thing Carol keeps up with without being told is taking out the bins, the 5:00 pm canned feeding and the meds. She doesn't even keep the kibble dishes filled and she doesn't keep their water fountain clean and filled. (We others will add water to the fountain.)
She does not scoop regularly - not even once a day - and she lets "accidents" sit for a day or two or three before cleaning them up. I'm talking about bodily waste out in the open.
The house stinks all the time because of these things. My other sister won't visit. We can't have impromptu visitors.
I sometimes ask Carol why she doesn't do things without being asked. She responds: "Executive dysfunction." Unfortunately it, like ADHD, is a family trait.
Do you have any advice? Ideas? Similar experience?
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I just spent about two hours exercising my thinking/writing chops
on the subject of religion and homosexuality on FB.
Some interesting weirdness in here. For example, I was accused of writing what "smacks of Protestantism or worse" - by a Christian, no less. I wonder what denomination. Catholic? Jehovah's Witness?
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Name: K.J. HeidebrechtGender: Female
Hometown: Huntington Beach, CA
Home country: United States
Current location: Fountain Valley, CA
Member since: Wed Jun 19, 2019, 03:15 PM
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