Anyone seen this excellent Ted talk by Sue Klebold, mom of Dylan Klebold, Columbine shooter?

[MaryMagdaline]

11. I think I understand atonement. I read her statements.

I was struck by how she accused her son's accomplice of being very "controlling." Was he more controlling than her son who enjoyed forcing other children to cower under desks so that he could kill them, thus controlling the date and time of their deaths? Her lack of objectivity only causes more pain. She caused me pain by that statement. God only knows what it would do to the parents of the children who were her son's victims.

The biggest problem I have with her statements is that they do not have a ring of truth. She is not an ignorant person; she is weak. She could not look evil in its face and for that I forgive her. I cannot believe That she didn't know her son was courting evil, via his "controlling" friend or not. If she was too frightened to face it, that is what she needs to admit to. Forgiveness is for everyone, even mass murderers, but you don't get there without complete truth telling. And if you cannot tell the truth because of the pain it brings you, don't speak at all.