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vlyons

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27. So do you expect to get something back for your generosity?

Mon May 7, 2018, 05:18 PM

May 2018

Well it's no wonder that you get disappointed. Boddhicitta is loving kindness that is generated for the benefit of others without the expectation of getting anything in return. The expectation of getting something in return is a selfish aim, and contaminates the intention of doing a good deed for others.

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Empathy has to flow both ways [View all] Cary May 2018 OP

You're right kind of, it SHOULD flow both ways, elleng May 2018 #1

It's been a disappointment Cary May 2018 #3

Yes indeed we are in this together. elleng May 2018 #4

This message was self-deleted by its author elocs May 2018 #2

Empathy is one of my elements when I define liberalism Cary May 2018 #7

Yes a lot more empathy... LakeArenal May 2018 #5

I can get the outrage from #fakepresident cult followers Cary May 2018 #6

Absolutely. AND I didn't need any "explaining". LakeArenal May 2018 #9

"Explaining" Cary May 2018 #17

Yes it is a shame.... Heartstrings May 2018 #8

This message was self-deleted by its author elocs May 2018 #10

That's a bit more dramatic than what I referred to. Cary May 2018 #11

This message was self-deleted by its author elocs May 2018 #13

Must we have equality of empathy? brer cat May 2018 #15

No one has to anything Cary May 2018 #16

"No one has to anything" Right, neither do I. I'm out. elocs May 2018 #18

I am wrestling with something that has nothing to do with you or what you have said Cary May 2018 #19

Of course not. brer cat May 2018 #20

Ugh Cary May 2018 #21

True. The same could be said for respect. Boomerproud May 2018 #12

This message was self-deleted by its author elocs May 2018 #14

K&R Gothmog May 2018 #22

It does not have to flow both ways. NCTraveler May 2018 #23

I'm sick and tired of the non-constructive conflict Cary May 2018 #24

Education is the solution. NCTraveler May 2018 #25

Agree empathy is an individual thing that occurs within a person. Hortensis May 2018 #30

I get that but I have been wedged Cary May 2018 #31

True, but I think it was killed in a murder-suicide with "Civility". Behind the Aegis May 2018 #26

So do you expect to get something back for your generosity? vlyons May 2018 #27

What makes you think empathy is generosity? Cary May 2018 #32

What makes you think that it isn't? vlyons May 2018 #34

Look up enlightened self interest Cary May 2018 #35

You don't need to teach me about empathy vlyons May 2018 #44

This is a discussion board Cary May 2018 #45

good for you vlyons May 2018 #48

Maybe. Cary May 2018 #49

Empathy doesn't require, nor should a truly empathetic person expect, reciprocation or EffieBlack May 2018 #28

Says who? Cary May 2018 #36

I should add... Cary May 2018 #37

Then why do you expect empathy to be returned and feel slighted that it didn't happen? EffieBlack May 2018 #39

Who said I feel slighted? Cary May 2018 #41

And I didnt mean to infer you are self destructive or an addict Cary May 2018 #42

That's a different issue EffieBlack May 2018 #38

It's an example that illustrates why your point is not well taken. Cary May 2018 #43

empathy doesn't flow. One is either empathic WhiteTara May 2018 #29

What's going on is that we have a fascist in the White House, Cary May 2018 #33

No. Empathy doesn't have to flow both ways JI7 May 2018 #40

You insist on living in a spiritually dualistic world? Cary May 2018 #46

It all flows. You must let go to allow it Cary May 2018 #47