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Madam Mossfern

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226. I'm just a considerate person

Sun Aug 5, 2018, 11:20 PM

Aug 2018

and my children have learned that from me.

Believe me, they never went hungry, and it was never a problem to be discrete while nursing them in public. None of them suffocated. The woman in the OP photo had taken her arm out of the sleeve of her top in order to expose her entire breast - I've never had to do that at any time, nor have I seen that done by anyone else either. I don't know, but when I was nursing my babies and had to go out in public with them, I always wore a loose shirt, blouse or sweater and made sure that there was a receiving blanket or cloth diaper in the diaper bag.

One doesn't need to have an 'in your face' attitude. Women have been nursing their babies since the beginning of time and it wasn't a political statement until recently. This generation of moms hasn't invented it, they're not more special. The babies? Well they don't really care.

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A friends daughter-in-law told to "cover up" while feeding her baby, so she did! [View all] kpete Aug 2018 OP

A brilliant retort. BSdetect Aug 2018 #1

Slow clap... Wounded Bear Aug 2018 #2

Why is it we ALL think nursing animals is sooooo cute, but . . . . MagickMuffin Aug 2018 #3

In the era of mass electronic technology there is always a chance avebury Aug 2018 #9

People don't think it's disgusting. They think it's exhibitionism. Because boobs are sexual... Honeycombe8 Aug 2018 #24

and the picture in question barbtries Aug 2018 #44

... Anon-C Aug 2018 #51

+1 demmiblue Aug 2018 #59

We have laws against showing female breasts for a reason sarah FAILIN Aug 2018 #62

What is the penalty for breastfeeding in public where you live? Mariana Aug 2018 #100

We don't have people near me doing that. sarah FAILIN Aug 2018 #171

That doesn't mean it will never happen. Mariana Aug 2018 #222

What's the reason? phylny Aug 2018 #101

Let me get this straight, you support this attack on nursing mothers? stevenleser Aug 2018 #105

That has changed. Idaho passed a law this year. tammywammy Aug 2018 #112

Even better. Thank you!!! stevenleser Aug 2018 #113

Thank you . It seems we even have some ignorant people on here. Oppaloopa Aug 2018 #153

Not legal to expose yourself while doing so. sarah FAILIN Aug 2018 #169

Please show one instance of a breastfeeding woman convicted of indecent exposure. tammywammy Aug 2018 #173

...crickets... stevenleser Aug 2018 #194

The thread is a loser sarah FAILIN Aug 2018 #257

Pot. Kettle. uppityperson Aug 2018 #258

Oh how classy sarah FAILIN Aug 2018 #260

Yes, it is 100% legal to expose yourself while doing so. nt stevenleser Aug 2018 #184

Even in Florida the law is a woman cane breast feed anywhere. Oppaloopa Aug 2018 #152

FAILIN doesn't seem to have a problem Mariana Aug 2018 #221

Talking about hyperbole! Madam Mossfern Aug 2018 #231

Sure, it's hyperbole. Mariana Aug 2018 #239

It's the mocking. Madam Mossfern Aug 2018 #240

Females have breasts for the purpose of feeding their young..... ProudMNDemocrat Aug 2018 #4

exactly nt heaven05 Aug 2018 #5

Ding Ding Ferrets are Cool Aug 2018 #11

Indeed. That's why we're called mammals. MineralMan Aug 2018 #14

No, it's both genders, but mainly women, from my experience in hearing people talk about it. Honeycombe8 Aug 2018 #26

It was mostly men who wrote and passed the various laws Mariana Aug 2018 #118

Why then do men have nipples? Major Nikon Aug 2018 #30

Nipples are developed in the first several weeks. Cold War Spook Aug 2018 #42

From the waist up, there's virtually no anatomical differences MineralMan Aug 2018 #66

I've known men who lactated janterry Aug 2018 #104

Yes. The pituitary gland can trigger release of those hormones MineralMan Aug 2018 #130

Men can get breast cancer, too. Haggis for Breakfast Aug 2018 #139

They can, but it's almost always diagnosed too late. MineralMan Aug 2018 #140

Also, men should get a base-line mammogram Haggis for Breakfast Aug 2018 #156

"You can milk anything with nipples!" bullwinkle428 Aug 2018 #181

I always thought he should have said, "Well, if you want to be milked so badly, get your Dr to give stevenleser Aug 2018 #207

I think it is fine to find breasts sexy Zing Zing Zingbah Aug 2018 #39

THANK you GaYellowDawg Aug 2018 #96

Breasts do have something to do with sex Madam Mossfern Aug 2018 #107

I don't understand why it has to be that way. You're right. 7962 Aug 2018 #126

Many babies don't like to be covered while eating. n/t tammywammy Aug 2018 #129

This cover up the boobies of nursing mothers nonsense is medieval, dark ages stuff that stevenleser Aug 2018 #131

Hyperbolic much, lol? whathehell Aug 2018 #182

No. It's actually not hyperbole. nt stevenleser Aug 2018 #183

Yes. It actually is. whathehell Aug 2018 #190

No, it actually isn't. And no the seventies have nothing to do with this. nt stevenleser Aug 2018 #191

Yes, it actually is, and the seventies are a lot more relevant whathehell Aug 2018 #198

Nope, what is a medieval attitude has nothing to do with the 70s. nt stevenleser Aug 2018 #199

Well, thanks for your learned opinion on the issue, lol whathehell Aug 2018 #202

I wasn't aware that knowing that medieval does not equal 1970 had to do with being learned stevenleser Aug 2018 #205

You seem unaware whathehell Aug 2018 #245

Nope, I'm not. Only of assertions that are wrong. Which you seem to make a lot. nt stevenleser Aug 2018 #248

Ermagherd...berbs! stevenleser Aug 2018 #141

Correct... whathehell Aug 2018 #180

I know plenty of women who think breasts are sexy Codeine Aug 2018 #146

This is in a restaurant? oberliner Aug 2018 #6

Sure. That's where people of all ages eat. MineralMan Aug 2018 #12

If it's a restaurant in the US, then they are required by law to allow the mother to breastfeed oberliner Aug 2018 #16

Yes. I wonder if it was a restaurant employee who MineralMan Aug 2018 #17

Facebook removing the post is another interesting component here oberliner Aug 2018 #18

Facebook is afraid of breasts. They routinely remove any photo MineralMan Aug 2018 #22

No boobs on Facebook,... But Nazis, Fascists,... magicarpet Aug 2018 #56

Yeah, well, there's lots of absurdity out there. MineralMan Aug 2018 #58

Looks like an "R" got lost in your absurdity.... magicarpet Aug 2018 #87

Hah! So it did. I'll fix it. MineralMan Aug 2018 #132

Elsewhere in this thread, someone points out that it was NOT removed from fb. Tipperary Aug 2018 #148

they have to "allow" her KentuckyWoman Aug 2018 #19

Asking someone to cover her boobs is not "not allowing her to breastfeed." nt Honeycombe8 Aug 2018 #27

Good point oberliner Aug 2018 #28

My position on this too. sarah FAILIN Aug 2018 #34

No one needs to use a scarf or wear special clothing to disguise breast feeding. That is the law. pnwmom Aug 2018 #41

ditto barbtries Aug 2018 #45

That is not the law in my state sarah FAILIN Aug 2018 #46

She's not topless or even 1/4 topless.Mind your own business and quit creating a show when an infant uppityperson Aug 2018 #72

I'm not the one with a receiving blanket on my head like an idiot. sarah FAILIN Aug 2018 #76

Why? You wrote this in another reply.. uppityperson Aug 2018 #80

No skin above the areola? So no cleavage is allowed? Wow. What state is that? n/t pnwmom Aug 2018 #88

What state is that? I'd like to check your law. Or perhaps you could give me a link. pnwmom Aug 2018 #86

Alabama state law since 2006 allows breastfeeding in public. tammywammy Aug 2018 #109

HA!! 7962 Aug 2018 #127

Which state is that? I'll go look up the law. MineralMan Aug 2018 #134

She's at least 1/4 topless & SatahFAILIN is as entitled to her opinion whathehell Aug 2018 #90

You are saying that "SatahFAILIN" can share their opinion but I can't? uppityperson Aug 2018 #92

No, I'm saying you already HAVE shared your opinion without whathehell Aug 2018 #94

Maybe you missed reading my whole post uppityperson Aug 2018 #98

Maybe, maybe not.. whathehell Aug 2018 #106

Anyone who implies a DUer is not "a man" because the sight of a nursing breast doesn't uppityperson Aug 2018 #119

Again, stunning that this was said here. Some folks really outed themselves. nt stevenleser Aug 2018 #133

Um, I saw no such implication.. whathehell Aug 2018 #149

I was being polite by using "implied". I said rude, not personal attack but you are partially correc uppityperson Aug 2018 #159

The OP doesn't show topless or near topless breastfeeding, so I don't know what you're talking about pnwmom Aug 2018 #85

I've seen public breastfeefing with considerably less exposure whathehell Aug 2018 #93

And I've seen women on beaches, pools, restaurants, and other public pnwmom Aug 2018 #97

My condolences.. whathehell Aug 2018 #115

You didn't look at the evening gown pictures, any of which could have been worn in a restaurant. pnwmom Aug 2018 #117

We disagree.. whathehell Aug 2018 #145

Even in church... Totally Tunsie Aug 2018 #175

LOL! (Yuk) pnwmom Aug 2018 #243

Oh....that's TOO funny! MineralMan Aug 2018 #255

Ermagherd...berbs! stevenleser Aug 2018 #142

Good grief uppityperson Aug 2018 #48

Yes, the old "my baby won't nurse unless I'm nakey..." sarah FAILIN Aug 2018 #57

Do you understand how ridiculous your argument sounds? MineralMan Aug 2018 #60

You can take your advice and stick it back in your own pocket. sarah FAILIN Aug 2018 #65

Oh, on a public forum, I will feel free to post my opinion as I choose. MineralMan Aug 2018 #69

Yes there is 'ignore' sarah FAILIN Aug 2018 #77

And done. sarah FAILIN Aug 2018 #79

Oh, thank goodness.... MineralMan Aug 2018 #136

Lucky You. Cha Aug 2018 #252

How is replying to MM ignoring him? uppityperson Aug 2018 #74

Um, yeah..He's free to ignote her as well. whathehell Aug 2018 #155

And you are free to ignore me rather than replying to each reply uppityperson Aug 2018 #157

And the same is also true for you whathehell Aug 2018 #158

Of course. I don't need your permission to ignore your numerous replies to my posts. uppityperson Aug 2018 #160

Are you sure? whathehell Aug 2018 #163

Last word, last word uppityperson Aug 2018 #167

Do you understamd how ridiculously lame your "argument" whathehell Aug 2018 #154

Yes! Just don't look. tammywammy Aug 2018 #161

Lol..Do advocate for public nudity on those grounds? whathehell Aug 2018 #164

There are lots of places with public nudity tammywammy Aug 2018 #165

Lol..Not restaurants or city streets. whathehell Aug 2018 #177

Actually yes, city streets. It's legal for women to be topless in NYC. nt stevenleser Aug 2018 #203

Lol.. That's one city. whathehell Aug 2018 #247

No, it's not. You really should research before you assert things. stevenleser Aug 2018 #249

I'm female, breastfed an infant who wouldn't eat if head covered uppityperson Aug 2018 #168

No head covering needed.. whathehell Aug 2018 #176

If you want my breast fully covered when nursing, my baby's head would be covered uppityperson Aug 2018 #196

It's not an issue of "fully covered". whathehell Aug 2018 #201

You want other people's infants to starve until they do what you want them to? GG squared uppityperson Aug 2018 #68

The baby's head was covering her up just fine. MineralMan Aug 2018 #54

No it was not. sarah FAILIN Aug 2018 #61

I don't give a damn about your teen son's fee-fees. MineralMan Aug 2018 #63

Oh, I was under the impression you were a man sarah FAILIN Aug 2018 #70

LOL.... MineralMan Aug 2018 #71

OMG. MM isn't "a man" if he can ignore staring at the breast of a nursing mom??? uppityperson Aug 2018 #78

Funny, isn't it? MineralMan Aug 2018 #137

Well, just don't look if it offends you, Christ. Laffy Kat Aug 2018 #123

How about you be a parent and tell your son it's a mom feeding her baby and move on tammywammy Aug 2018 #64

Exactly. MineralMan Aug 2018 #67

Fraid so sarah FAILIN Aug 2018 #73

Too hard to be a parent - gotcha. tammywammy Aug 2018 #81

Exactly uppityperson Aug 2018 #82

Many, many fashionable tops and dresses show more breast than we can see in this picture. unitedwethrive Aug 2018 #83

You were trying to say something about the nursing mom(s) but she/they stevenleser Aug 2018 #110

What you should be teaching your son is that it is possible to see women in any and all variations stevenleser Aug 2018 #116

So, you're refusing to teach your son common courtesy? MineralMan Aug 2018 #138

Ermagherd...berbs! stevenleser Aug 2018 #143

Holy shit, you're a piece of fucking work, Codeine Aug 2018 #151

Someone upthread said they thought I was being hyperbolic when I referred to some opinions being stevenleser Aug 2018 #185

I am consistently floored by that poster. Codeine Aug 2018 #187

I voted not to hide that BTW. Crunchy Frog Aug 2018 #206

lol Cha Aug 2018 #251

I can see that I had responses in this post.. sarah FAILIN Aug 2018 #172

You are replying to yourself, telling yourself to put yourself on ignore. uppityperson Aug 2018 #174

As Codeine said, quite a piece of work. nt stevenleser Aug 2018 #186

Really? Mariana Aug 2018 #225

Exactly. uppityperson Aug 2018 #75

sarah FAILIN ... Madam Mossfern Aug 2018 #114

No breast feeding without fully covering because a teenage boy will simultaneously uppityperson Aug 2018 #124

This not a limitation on feeding infants Madam Mossfern Aug 2018 #179

Of course it was a mocking gesture, Codeine Aug 2018 #188

In my opinion Madam Mossfern Aug 2018 #197

Yes it is. You need to be covered, showing no breast, is a limitation uppityperson Aug 2018 #193

Not "need" Madam Mossfern Aug 2018 #195

You agree that breasts will embarrass her teenage son? Really? Do you think there are teens stevenleser Aug 2018 #125

That's not what I meant Madam Mossfern Aug 2018 #178

The consideration that needs to be shown is to the hungry baby. That's the #1 consideration. stevenleser Aug 2018 #189

She could have taken that receiving blanket Madam Mossfern Aug 2018 #208

Nope, she shouldn't have needed to do anything of the kind. Her comfort and the baby's is what stevenleser Aug 2018 #209

How would she be uncomfortable draping a receiving blanket over her shoulder? Madam Mossfern Aug 2018 #211

That's up to her and how she feels. It's not up to anyone else. nt stevenleser Aug 2018 #212

Honestly now Madam Mossfern Aug 2018 #213

That's my answer. The #1 consideration is the hungry baby and the mother speaks for the baby stevenleser Aug 2018 #214

... so she puts a blanket over her head Madam Mossfern Aug 2018 #216

Do you really think the blanket was on her head for more than a couple of minutes at most? tammywammy Aug 2018 #219

Mocking is not joking Madam Mossfern Aug 2018 #220

I said maybe, since it's pretty common for babies to not like being covered while nursing. tammywammy Aug 2018 #224

And this was the perfect opportunity for that mom Madam Mossfern Aug 2018 #227

She doesn't have to cover up, but she should be considerate and cover up. uppityperson Aug 2018 #228

Because being a considerate person Madam Mossfern Aug 2018 #229

Yet other people, those like you, don't need to be considerate of nursing babies and moms. uppityperson Aug 2018 #233

Nursing mothers don't think it's polite that you are trying to shame them. Where is your politeness? stevenleser Aug 2018 #215

I nursed four babies Madam Mossfern Aug 2018 #218

If you nursed four babies, your position is even harder to understand. nt stevenleser Aug 2018 #223

I'm just a considerate person Madam Mossfern Aug 2018 #226

She took a strap off her shoulder, there is no sleeve. Look at her right shoulder uppityperson Aug 2018 #232

And she could have taken the blanket that she has on her head Madam Mossfern Aug 2018 #235

No, you're not being considerate. Being considerate would mean you care about the comfort of other stevenleser Aug 2018 #237

... and her mocking behavior? Madam Mossfern Aug 2018 #238

You object to the momentary mocking behavior yet write reply after reply stating nursing moms should uppityperson Aug 2018 #241

It's about consideration all around. Madam Mossfern Aug 2018 #242

The main consideration should be to the hungry baby. uppityperson Aug 2018 #200

C'mon now Madam Mossfern Aug 2018 #204

My baby wouldn't nurse if covered. Not understanding this possibility is disrespectful. uppityperson Aug 2018 #234

I understand the possibility Madam Mossfern Aug 2018 #236

You need to teach your kid some manner then. Codeine Aug 2018 #150

The whole point of the recieving blanket being over her head maxrandb Aug 2018 #254

You are quite literally NEVER on the right Codeine Aug 2018 #147

Laughed really hard ChubbyStar Aug 2018 #217

I agree...n/t whathehell Aug 2018 #91

Appears to be so from the tables and a waiter, but... KY_EnviroGuy Aug 2018 #121

Omg! Bewbs!!!1! Oneironaut Aug 2018 #7

my hero of the day! handmade34 Aug 2018 #8

Those who find it offensive Rorey Aug 2018 #10

Exactly. Why would anyone stare in the first place? MineralMan Aug 2018 #15

LOL, and a lot of people do look disgusting when they eat. Rorey Aug 2018 #53

The only reason someone would stare in the first place Mariana Aug 2018 #259

That seems about right to me. MineralMan Aug 2018 #261

Bingo. When I was a nursing mother, PoindexterOglethorpe Aug 2018 #40

Good for you! Rorey Aug 2018 #52

A great move on her part. MineralMan Aug 2018 #13

Right in the middle of my second cup of coffee.. mountain grammy Aug 2018 #20

Male Politicians Warn Exposed Boobs May Cause Society To Collapse keithbvadu2 Aug 2018 #21

That's an old story. Did the law pass? MineralMan Aug 2018 #25

Alas! The attitude remains. keithbvadu2 Aug 2018 #32

Free the boobies! Major Nikon Aug 2018 #31

Maybe male politicians are the "real" boobs! Alwaysna Aug 2018 #35

Ermagherd...berbs! stevenleser Aug 2018 #144

That kind of thing tells you more about the complainers calimary Aug 2018 #230

The only "cover up" I care about generalbetrayus Aug 2018 #23

How dare that baby eat outside food at a resaurant! Iggo Aug 2018 #29

Many men favor indiscretion. Sneederbunk Aug 2018 #33

Many babies don't care. uppityperson Aug 2018 #50

I would argue many equals all. stevenleser Aug 2018 #111

So yesterday I am at a nudist club in So Cal wasupaloopa Aug 2018 #36

She should have offered the towel to the theocrat who was offended GulfCoast66 Aug 2018 #37

That's what i was thinking! AwakeAtLast Aug 2018 #99

In some cases it's much more comfortable Cairycat Aug 2018 #38

why would fb take it down? barbtries Aug 2018 #43

'Cause sexually repressed American males get a sex boner when they see boobies. Iggo Aug 2018 #49

Years ago, I posted a story about breastfeeding. demmiblue Aug 2018 #55

She should have covered the face of the whiner. Ilsa Aug 2018 #47

I don't get the uproar over boobs The Genealogist Aug 2018 #84

Breast feeding is the new cornflake battered fried chicken Generic Brad Aug 2018 #95

I don't either Bayard Aug 2018 #108

Women are forced to wear bras in public? GulfCoast66 Aug 2018 #170

Some men won't control themselves, apparently. Mariana Aug 2018 #122

But they teach their sons to control themselves in many other areas. Thats the thing stevenleser Aug 2018 #135

Maybe this was pointed out already, but FB didn't take this down. Croney Aug 2018 #89

K&R... spanone Aug 2018 #102

lol Demovictory9 Aug 2018 #103

..... Laffy Kat Aug 2018 #120

Phew! Victor_c3 Aug 2018 #128

Is this Olive Garden? retread Aug 2018 #162

K&R Scurrilous Aug 2018 #166

Happy Breastfeeding Awareness Month! rocktivity Aug 2018 #192

So many ignorant American people (men and women) are infected with this prudish notion... Guilded Lilly Aug 2018 #210

For a thread with so many replies this one is remarkably short from my DU perspective. hunter Aug 2018 #244

It's a total of three folks who think that women's breasts are "dirty pillows" as Austin Powers put stevenleser Aug 2018 #256

Love it. iluvtennis Aug 2018 #246

People can also look away IronLionZion Aug 2018 #250

a Public Service Announcement Cairycat Aug 2018 #253