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lunatica

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64. I wonder if I may make a suggestion

Fri Sep 21, 2018, 04:08 PM

Sep 2018

Since you are actively involved in these situations and also actually doing something about it would you consider some kind of talks given to the male students too? In the same honest way you talk to the young women.

I think a man, or even better, a group of men demanding some sort of required orientation for the men in college regarding rape would go a long way towards ending this violence. Women and girls need more than to have the onus on them. And the majority of young men who would never rape themselves could also be persuaded to mitigate such behavior in other men.

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I am the father of a college student who was sexually assaulted in 2014 [View all] scheming daemons Sep 2018 OP

Thanks for sharing this difficult experience grantcart Sep 2018 #1

What an impact this piece.... busterbrown Sep 2018 #54

My parents (my daughters grandparents) do not know the whole story. scheming daemons Sep 2018 #55

Got It... Thanks for the piece. busterbrown Sep 2018 #58

Great letter. Zoonart Sep 2018 #2

She's not alone. Please let her know that. Solly Mack Sep 2018 #3

K & R. Thank you n/t OneGrassRoot Sep 2018 #4

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Thank you for your post. dalton99a Sep 2018 #7

Heartbreaking. fleur-de-lisa Sep 2018 #8

A horrible story so movingly told Tom Rinaldo Sep 2018 #9

Thank You for sharing this. Stuart G Sep 2018 #10

Thanks for sharing your very moving account. whathehell Sep 2018 #11

I'm So Sorry for What Your Daughter and Family Have Gone Through dlk Sep 2018 #12

I will say this.... scheming daemons Sep 2018 #13

She isn't the only one with scars from the incident Hav Sep 2018 #20

My daughter just graduated from college last April and I am so glad nothing like that world wide wally Sep 2018 #14

A sad story that shows that it is part of the culture Hav Sep 2018 #15

How awful for your daughter True Blue American Sep 2018 #16

I'm sure, somewhere, this piece of shit was bragging about the encounter scheming daemons Sep 2018 #19

You do whatever True Blue American Sep 2018 #25

The hardest thing for a rape victim to understand and embrace FakeNoose Sep 2018 #17

K&R for your wonderful family. nolabear Sep 2018 #18

I keep saying if those sanctimonious Republican senators --- and the Dotard -- Mad-in-Mo Sep 2018 #21

I honestly think Trump and those hateful old Republicans True Blue American Sep 2018 #28

I'm sorry for what your daughter and family are going through. LuckyCharms Sep 2018 #22

I'm sure my dad would have felt the same had I ever told him. Luz Sep 2018 #23

It is never too late to tell him. Trust me, he will give you unconditional love and it WILL help. scheming daemons Sep 2018 #27

Thank you for writing this. This is a terrible dark reality of our society, and by bringing it enough Sep 2018 #24

K&R redstatebluegirl Sep 2018 #26

Well said Dad and Mom usaf-vet Sep 2018 #29

Thank you-- JohnnyLib2 Sep 2018 #30

Your story is powerful mythology Sep 2018 #31

Thank you. scheming daemons Sep 2018 #34

That is the legacy of a rapist... brer cat Sep 2018 #84

Trump doesn't have a conscience, therefore he can not feel compassion. olegramps Sep 2018 #32

Your story mchill Sep 2018 #33

I think men never really "get it" until it happens to someone they love. scheming daemons Sep 2018 #35

Men should watch The Rape of Richard Beck IronLionZion Sep 2018 #56

Thank you G_j Sep 2018 #36

Thank you for sharing this very personal life episode... magicarpet Sep 2018 #37

All I can say is that if you ever find the asshole who did this to your daughter Stonepounder Sep 2018 #38

thank you for your story... I cry handmade34 Sep 2018 #39

Thank you for sharing your family's story.... Heartstrings Sep 2018 #40

I am so sorry for your brilliant shining daughter to have to go through this pioche4 Sep 2018 #41

Thank you for telling us your story. Silver Gaia Sep 2018 #42

What a horrible thing to go through for all of you marlakay Sep 2018 #43

The after effects of rape on victim and family . . . people Sep 2018 #44

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Welcome o the board True Blue American Sep 2018 #48

That letter is heart-wrenching NastyRiffraff Sep 2018 #46

Thank you for sharing your story... ButSeeYa Sep 2018 #47

I am so sorry to hear this steve2470 Sep 2018 #49

Thank you for sharing. Pacifist Patriot Sep 2018 #50

I am so sorry about what was done to your daughter get the red out Sep 2018 #51

I have a 7 yo daughter... I cant even begin to imagine your pain. Le Gaucher Sep 2018 #52

You and your wife sound like wonderful parents. greatauntoftriplets Sep 2018 #53

Thanks for sharing that is truly heartbreaking... Dem_4_Life Sep 2018 #57

I'm so sorry! But thank you for posting this! Adrahil Sep 2018 #59

I work at a large University Olafjoy Sep 2018 #60

I wonder if I may make a suggestion lunatica Sep 2018 #64

This is an excellent idea. Haggis for Breakfast Sep 2018 #83

Thank you for your post. scheming daemons Sep 2018 #66

Thank you for sharing with us cp Sep 2018 #61

I'm so sorry that happened to your daughter. MineralMan Sep 2018 #62

This shook me to the core lunatica Sep 2018 #63

Thank you for this. H2O Man Sep 2018 #65

This is heartbreaking. joshcryer Sep 2018 #67

I am so sorry. She is so young Ilsa Sep 2018 #68

May peace come to you and your family SallyHemmings Sep 2018 #69

(((hugs))) samnsara Sep 2018 #70

I cried reading that. Doreen Sep 2018 #71

I am so sorry for what happened to your daughter. smirkymonkey Sep 2018 #72

I am so sorry for the pain your daughter, you and your wife have had to endure. Squinch Sep 2018 #73

My heart breaks for your daughter, you and your wife! denvine Sep 2018 #74

My heart breaks for you and your family Niagara Sep 2018 #75

I am so sorry for what happened to your daughter, I wish I had more & better words for you.... FM123 Sep 2018 #76

I sincerely hope you and your family find peace. riversedge Sep 2018 #77

Thanks for your private story. I feel for your daughter and you and your wife. Honeycombe8 Sep 2018 #78

Thank you for sharing this with us stopwastingmymoney Sep 2018 #79

I read this almost an hour ago and my chest is still so squeezed it hurts. Hekate Sep 2018 #80

One of the most powerful essays I've read on this topic lostnfound Sep 2018 #81

Carl Jung said "show me where a man's biggest pain is today..." lostnfound Sep 2018 #82

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Thank you for sharing your daughter's story, and for being there for her. VOX Sep 2018 #86

What is going to get her through this is that she has two parents who love her dearly. pnwmom Sep 2018 #87

I have great respect for you... Trueblue Texan Sep 2018 #88

As a father of a bright happy daughter JPPaverage Sep 2018 #89

This brought tears to my eyes. panader0 Sep 2018 #90

Happened to a close friend, though a bit different circumstances Bradical79 Sep 2018 #91

I refused to let my attempted LittleGirl Sep 2018 #92

What a powerful and important post. thucythucy Sep 2018 #93

I'm so sorry to hear this happened to your daughter Upthevibe Sep 2018 #94

Thanks for sharing. Your daughter wanting to move on is understandable. Blue_true Sep 2018 #95

I know exactly what you are talking about Joe Nation Sep 2018 #96