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Hortensis

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51. Yes. Not everything can be fixed.

Wed Oct 24, 2018, 11:29 AM

Oct 2018

Imagine you've had some good and interesting times with just some of the fortunes you didn't spend on parenting, and with the time and freedom! So many are choosing that now.

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Baby showers make me uneasy. [View all] 3catwoman3 Oct 2018 OP

Not only to give gifts, but for the parents themselves to marybourg Oct 2018 #1

When I was pregnant with our first son, I told my husband... 3catwoman3 Oct 2018 #13

Long ago and far away saidsimplesimon Oct 2018 #26

I agree, it has always made me uncomfortable. redstatebluegirl Oct 2018 #2

This doesn't make much sense to me. WeekiWater Oct 2018 #3

For the first few days, or couple of weeks, you can do with... 3catwoman3 Oct 2018 #10

Baby showers don't provide every product known to man. WeekiWater Oct 2018 #12

There was no bar set in the discussion. 3catwoman3 Oct 2018 #14

Very kind of her friends and family. Such a nervous and exciting time. N/T WeekiWater Oct 2018 #15

It is Jewish custom to NEVER buy leftynyc Oct 2018 #4

Cherokees have the same custom. Runningdawg Oct 2018 #7

Jews have similar traditions leftynyc Oct 2018 #9

We had a baby shower for Jewish co-worker MaryMagdaline Oct 2018 #34

It does make sense leftynyc Oct 2018 #36

Some shelters will not allow the adoption of black cats near Halloween... 3catwoman3 Oct 2018 #38

Going on Saturday leftynyc Oct 2018 #40

Very true MaryMagdaline Oct 2018 #39

My MIL/SIL planned my baby shower for our first. woodsprite Oct 2018 #5

The entire concept of baby showers has always seemed tacky, shallow, & often insincere to me mtnsnake Oct 2018 #6

As with everything else it can be tacky but when done nicely it MaryMagdaline Oct 2018 #35

It's Jewish custom to not congratulate an expecting mom ProudLib72 Oct 2018 #8

I Think This Is RobinA Oct 2018 #11

I'm not uncomfortable with it Zing Zing Zingbah Oct 2018 #16

You are right, of course, that life is full of uncertainies. 3catwoman3 Oct 2018 #19

Nothing compares. tazkcmo Oct 2018 #27

All that is true. But most of us buy things when we're expecting a baby. pnwmom Oct 2018 #37

Our friends threw us a wonderful baby shower Bettie Oct 2018 #17

How very sad, and how brave of you... 3catwoman3 Oct 2018 #18

I talk about it Bettie Oct 2018 #22

Those kinds of losses are invisible to those who do not know... 3catwoman3 Oct 2018 #23

Sorry for your loss Bettie Oct 2018 #24

I had a very interesting and surprising realization, just earlier this year. 3catwoman3 Oct 2018 #25

I think a similar thing Bettie Oct 2018 #28

I missed my shower SoCalDem Oct 2018 #20

I'm so glad your boy made it Bettie Oct 2018 #21

The "gender reveal" parties are similarly uncomfortable - The Velveteen Ocelot Oct 2018 #29

If you go to a gender reveal party, AND a baby shower, are you... 3catwoman3 Oct 2018 #30

Probably, but I wouldn't. The Velveteen Ocelot Oct 2018 #31

And gender reveals are disgusting! bdjhawk Oct 2018 #32

A Terrible Idea RobinA Oct 2018 #56

I remember reading that in some European countries kskiska Oct 2018 #33

After I had my son, I met a woman who had a full term stillbirth Danmel Oct 2018 #41

After 20 weeks, less than 0.5% of pregancies will end in demise. Hortensis Oct 2018 #42

If One Is Among The 0.5%. . . ProfessorGAC Oct 2018 #43

I'm sorry and of course it's no comfort to those few. Hortensis Oct 2018 #44

Yeah ProfessorGAC Oct 2018 #48

I am so sorry to hear that. 3catwoman3 Oct 2018 #45

Water Under The Bridge ProfessorGAC Oct 2018 #47

I wonder if it would be any different today, Prof. Hortensis Oct 2018 #49

Probably Not ProfessorGAC Oct 2018 #50

Yes. Not everything can be fixed. Hortensis Oct 2018 #51

Retiring In 68 Days ProfessorGAC Oct 2018 #52

Whoa, congrats! That's lovely to hear. Hortensis Oct 2018 #53

Alas, We're Too Rare ProfessorGAC Oct 2018 #54

Yes. Exactly. Hortensis Oct 2018 #55

I Am Not Jewish itcfish Oct 2018 #46