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9. Nor should we automatically assume that a (D) after someone's name
Sat Feb 9, 2019, 04:36 PM
Feb 2019

means that person is a life-long decent person.

I've been around politics and elections since 1960. I can't tell you how many times I have cringed over something I learned about a Democratic candidate. There was a state assembly candidate in California who was forever trying to feel up young women who were trying to help him win an election. He was a "great guy," a lot of people said. "Full of charm." A "winner." I dropped off his campaign team and supported the woman who did win.

Here's the thing: a lot of men who seek political office were BMOCs in college, leaders of their fraternities, and then became leaders in their local Rotary or Kiwanis clubs before their first run for office. All of those things are or were groups of "hail fellow, well met" men. I've been around them all my life. Mostly, I don't like them. They'll snicker at the dirty jokes, laugh at a story with racial overtones, and so forth. But, they're popular among their peers and end up running for office.

Mostly, that other side of their personalities isn't exhibited except among their male peer group. But, it's there.

I haven't seen the same from the Democratic women in politics I have known. Not at all. Perhaps that's why I've gravitated toward helping women candidates more often than men.

There are wonderful men in politics, too, but you just don't know. Unless you're closely associated with them, you don't know how they are in their private lives. I hate being embarrassed by someone I have supported.

This message was self-deleted by its author Renew Deal Feb 2019 #1
No, not a Kim Davis type. She's openly a terrible person. MineralMan Feb 2019 #2
All due respect, MM, I think the point is that having an XX chromosome pair is no panacea ... mr_lebowski Feb 2019 #5
Nor should we automatically assume that a (D) after someone's name MineralMan Feb 2019 #9
I agree. Benevolent sexism is still sexism. I agree spooky3 Feb 2019 #12
I know you didn't mean her Renew Deal Feb 2019 #7
Look at where she was elected, please. MineralMan Feb 2019 #10
It's not about you Renew Deal Feb 2019 #14
If it's not about me, don't make it about me, please. MineralMan Feb 2019 #18
I deleted it since you found it personally insulting Renew Deal Feb 2019 #20
I'm finished trying to figure it out also Awsi Dooger Feb 2019 #3
I'm going to leave that all to the Virginians to sort out. MineralMan Feb 2019 #4
There should an investigation MINIMUM and DNC on state levels should enact some level of consequence uponit7771 Feb 2019 #6
I don't care how many oats young men (or, GASP, young women) sow. demmiblue Feb 2019 #8
I was using that as a euphemism. MineralMan Feb 2019 #11
Why anyone is surprised at these behaviors is a question ismnotwasm Feb 2019 #13
Yes, I think change is coming, and just in the nick of time. MineralMan Feb 2019 #16
Yeah, the whole thing is mind-blowing . . . peggysue2 Feb 2019 #15
We need more women officeholders, but radius777 Feb 2019 #17
Whether those people in Virginia leave or survive this, MineralMan Feb 2019 #19
I think VA Democratic Party and assembly members will handle it, and Hortensis Feb 2019 #21
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