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In reply to the discussion: Do you really want to know why some people are MAGAts? Read my story. [View all]marlakay
(12,957 posts)I had a few things similar but instead of authoritarian my parents were way too lax because of moms parents being overly strict she was determined not to be that way.
So I grew up not having to do anything, no chores, eat what I want, etc. My cousins were jealous and thought I was a spoiled brat. In some ways I was but I also was quiet and shy and the good girl and sensitive so they left me alone.
We also stopped going to church when I was 12 but that was year my brother left, my mom during menopause had break down, they lied to me everything like that was shameful so I was told my mom was sick. I got lots of fear in my childhood.
I was completely left to myself from then till I granduated, they no longer cared about my grades I went from As to Cs and I also got bullied in 8th and 9th grade. I told my mom and no one did anything.
So in high school senior year when a friend told me about this cool hippy church I went and got saved. It converted over to a right wing very political church after a few years. I let them tell me when to get married, young, who to vote for etc. Which was republican except for Jimmy the first time because he was born again. I got very pro life and stayed that way until my early 40s.
What changed me? I started having doubts in my 30s, most of us in church were working poor and yet the elders had new houses and cars and nice clothes. I left that church and went to a less strict one but I still had doubts that caused me to stop going.
Bush is what woke me up politically and right after he became president my younger daughter had a abortion and that changed me from pro life to pro choice, why because I just couldnt think of my daughter as a murderer. I found this site in 2004, worked on Kerry campaign, Obama, etc and became more and more liberal and now my spiritual side uses mindfulness.
Back then I was very judgmental too, thought I knew everything.
The good part of it for you and me is we can have compassion and understanding for people who believe different instead of hate and judgement.
It is easy to jump too quick and judge Trumps people but a lot of them are brainwashed like you and I were and we both know changing took a long time not a quick conversation with someone with a different view.