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88. Damn, that sucks.

Sat Jun 29, 2019, 06:09 PM

Jun 2019

Long time lurker (as in 2000, but my account is fairly new). I'm a cancer survivor, myself: Testicular cancer in 2015. Before I had cancer, I used to tell people, "I'm sorry to hear that", when someone would announce news like this. After having had cancer, and then getting that response, I realized how frustratingly useless it is to hear "I'm sorry." or "I'm sorry. Let me know if I can do anything to help."
So, I don't say it anymore. Instead, I say, "Damn, that sucks. What can I do to help?"

Not "Can I do anything to help?" or "Let me know if I can do anything to help.", but "What can I do to help?" Why? Of course you CAN help. You must be ABLE to help if you asked the question. The real question is, WILL you? Let you know? I shouldn't HAVE to let you know, if you really mean to help.

So, LeftOfCool, having been where you are (just once), I know how badly that blows: It blows goat. I don't know where you live, but I'm in NC. If I can do anything for you, I will.

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Well shit, cancer is back! [View all] leftofcool Jun 2019 OP

Good luck! Heal well! marybourg Jun 2019 #1

well krum indeed. AllaN01Bear Jun 2019 #2

You'd better be back to fight malaise Jun 2019 #3

Take care of yourself. AJT Jun 2019 #4

good luck on the treatments...(((hugs))) samnsara Jun 2019 #5

good luck with the treatments. Afromania Jun 2019 #6

Good luck. Will look forward to your posts in August! bronxiteforever Jun 2019 #7

Please take care Scarsdale Jun 2019 #29

We love ya! CurtEastPoint Jun 2019 #8

Good luck with your treatments. SunsetDreams2 Jun 2019 #9

I am having an Anterior Disectomy & Spinal Fusion at 2 levels on 7/15. lark Jun 2019 #10

Good luck to you, lark. Ohiogal Jun 2019 #14

Thanks!! lark Jun 2019 #21

I'll be looking for you. babylonsister Jun 2019 #11

Good luck, leftofcool Ohiogal Jun 2019 #12

Good Luck. Stuart G Jun 2019 #13

Best fighting words I have ever read! SleeplessinSoCal Jun 2019 #15

You are strong and brave. We look forward to your return. Shrike47 Jun 2019 #16

Take carePaz. RestoreAmerica2020 Jun 2019 #17

Wishing you speedy recovery and return to DU (to give us all hell). alwaysinasnit Jun 2019 #18

I'm sorry to hear that left of cool, but you have a great attitude and the smirkymonkey Jun 2019 #19

Good luck with your treatments. CentralMass Jun 2019 #20

Like you're gonna quit DU? LOL!!!!🥰🥰 flying_wahini Jun 2019 #22

Please get well soon. panader0 Jun 2019 #23

All the best to you... Freedomofspeech Jun 2019 #24

All the best to you. We'll see you soon here on DU iluvtennis Jun 2019 #25

You got it!! tavernier Jun 2019 #26

Good luck...i hate cancer. I love liberals. Eliot Rosewater Jun 2019 #27

My best wishes for a speedy and complete recovery. Pls. keep in contact with us. nt SWBTATTReg Jun 2019 #28

Good Vibes to you, Friend! spanone Jun 2019 #30

F*** Cancer! You got this! BTW, what else do you have to do while getting chemo besides post on DU? mr_lebowski Jun 2019 #31

Best of luck to you. Chemisse Jun 2019 #32

Yes you will! Anon-C Jun 2019 #33

Best of luck in slaying the dragoncancer pandr32 Jun 2019 #34

Damn leftofcool, hoping chemo does the trick and you're back here as soon as you are able. a kennedy Jun 2019 #35

Stay strong to fight on! 2naSalit Jun 2019 #36

We're all with you cp Jun 2019 #37

Duly noted and best of luck! Zambero Jun 2019 #38

take Care of yourself Lefty! 😉 MLAA Jun 2019 #39

On behalf of the thousands here who haven't yet said so, we love you. 🤗 lostnfound Jun 2019 #40

Kick cancer's ass! See you soon. nolabear Jun 2019 #41

Good luck and sending vibes your way. applegrove Jun 2019 #42

All good wishes to you. Totally Tunsie Jun 2019 #43

Positive thoughts for you and this latest battle. We'll hold livetohike Jun 2019 #44

You clearly don't need Louis CK to be knight you as supremely funny DemocracyMouse Jun 2019 #45

I hope for a speedy recovery. Cancer is no joke. nt Baltimike Jun 2019 #46

i'm so sorry to hear this. barbtries Jun 2019 #47

Hang tight lillypaddle Jun 2019 #48

Rats! : ( MBS Jun 2019 #49

I'll keep a latte hot for you. Aristus Jun 2019 #50

This message was self-deleted by its author sinkingfeeling Jun 2019 #51

Kick cancer's ass. lpbk2713 Jun 2019 #52

Sorry to hear this. Get prepared as radiation to neck/throat is rough. sinkingfeeling Jun 2019 #53

Take care and H2O Man Jun 2019 #54

Sending positive vibes. Get back here soon! onecaliberal Jun 2019 #55

Cancer is "Agent Orange" Mendocino Jun 2019 #56

I'll be thinking of you, leftofcool and wishing you the best. ❤ nt littlemissmartypants Jun 2019 #57

Be well. Stay courageous and determined. NurseJackie Jun 2019 #58

Godspeed, and wishing complete remission for you. n/t PatrickforO Jun 2019 #59

Take good care and democrank Jun 2019 #60

Best to you treestar Jun 2019 #61

Sending good vibes, tulipsandroses Jun 2019 #62

Wishing you the very best recovery Lotus54 Jun 2019 #63

Sending positive energy your way wellst0nev0ter Jun 2019 #64

Best hopes for your recovery. I'm glad your prognosis is good. 58Sunliner Jun 2019 #65

Been there, done that! Staph Jun 2019 #66

Damn, take care of yourself and listen to your doctors FakeNoose Jun 2019 #67

You give that cancer hell!!! mgardener Jun 2019 #68

Hang in there lefty crazytown Jun 2019 #69

very best to you! Lulu KC Jun 2019 #70

Sorry you will have to go through crap for a while, but glad to hear of the really good prognosis deurbano Jun 2019 #71

Love the f$king attitude..... diverdownjt Jun 2019 #72

Wishing you a rapid recovery. Granny M Jun 2019 #73

My wife went two rounds with cancer. Kicked its ass both times. Expecting you to do likewise! DFW Jun 2019 #74

My good friend just finished week 3 of 7 mountain grammy Jun 2019 #75

all the best Left of Cool... stillcool Jun 2019 #76

This message was self-deleted by its author Chin music Jun 2019 #103

Be good to yourself shenmue Jun 2019 #77

Wishes for a speedy and complete recovery in the near future. pazzyanne Jun 2019 #78

So glad you got a good prognosis. My dad spent literally decades putting out a cancer fire Karadeniz Jun 2019 #79

Take care, leftofcool. gademocrat7 Jun 2019 #80

Sorry to hear about your illness. Stay mad and keep fighting - cancer and Trump Vinca Jun 2019 #81

Well. (a very angry) Dammit! mac2766 Jun 2019 #82

sending cancer fighting vibes your way Demovictory9 Jun 2019 #83

Good luck leftofcool! I'll see you in August for sure! Greybnk48 Jun 2019 #84

Good Vibes to you! Lady Freedom Returns Jun 2019 #85

Best of luck to you peggysue2 Jun 2019 #86

Get well and get back here soon! Blue_playwright Jun 2019 #87

Damn, that sucks. GB_RN Jun 2019 #88

Take care of yourself... Hekate Jun 2019 #89

Sending good vibes to leftofcool and to lark. sueh Jun 2019 #90

Sending healing vibes your way! PA Democrat Jun 2019 #91

Get well. We will deal with you when you come back. Blue_true Jun 2019 #92

Yes ma'am RainCaster Jun 2019 #93

I love your spirit! mia Jun 2019 #94

Look forward to your return good sir! Moostache Jun 2019 #95

Keep up the good fight! Niagara Jun 2019 #96

Keep up the good fight Raine Jun 2019 #97

Good luck MamaCat Jun 2019 #98

Fight like a girl! samplegirl Jun 2019 #99

good luck left!!!! kick that fucking cancers arse! Celerity Jun 2019 #100

Go kick some cancer ass! Nt The Figment Jun 2019 #101

Fight. boomer_wv Jun 2019 #102

Wishing you good health sellitman Jun 2019 #104

Just turn off the news for a while and take the stress out of your life. Get well. YOHABLO Jun 2019 #105

Prayers for your healthy recovery, leftofcool. femmocrat Jun 2019 #106

We'll all be right there with you. akraven Jun 2019 #107

Good to hear! Take of yourself, leftofcool octoberlib Jun 2019 #108

You better be back, leftofcool. We need you! calimary Jun 2019 #109