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HelpImSurrounded

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83. School dress codes and boys who are easily distracted,

Thu Sep 5, 2019, 09:19 AM

Sep 2019

Bodies are bodies. If we weren't so prudish about them, they wouldn't be such a big deal and we wouldn't feel a need to oppress girls and women simply because boys are too easily distracted. That problem starts because of what you are trying to do. YOU are making it naughty, taboos etc and that just makes it more interesting and you teach young boys that they don't need to learn self control.

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I have a question about bathing suits. [View all] TruckFump Sep 2019 OP

To each his or her own liberal N proud Sep 2019 #1

OMG!!!!!! TruckFump Sep 2019 #3

Sun City Hilton Head liberal N proud Sep 2019 #4

What an appropriately named place for an orgie!!!! TruckFump Sep 2019 #13

Pack your penacilin liberal N proud Sep 2019 #29

"Sun City Hilton Head"...... OMG! mitch96 Sep 2019 #40

Not no more Hassin Bin Sober Sep 2019 #123

Sun City Peachtree City is kind of known for that too. KentuckyWoman Sep 2019 #50

The only Peachtree City I know of is south of Atlanta. Is that it? peacebuzzard Sep 2019 #93

Reading this OP and the comments, this video clip comes to mind. TheBlackAdder Sep 2019 #94

Ah The Villages snowybirdie Sep 2019 #107

My parents just moved there a few weeks ago. Mariana Sep 2019 #111

They advertised heavily snowybirdie Sep 2019 #112

A buddy of mine lived near the Villages mitch96 Sep 2019 #159

Lemme guess. The Villages? trof Sep 2019 #142

Imho, wearing bathing suits in spas is weird jberryhill Sep 2019 #2

the more skin the better.... pangaia Sep 2019 #76

I had a very fine bootie in my twenties... hunter Sep 2019 #115

Ah, the "string bikini" battle jberryhill Sep 2019 #116

I went to a Public H.S. in the early 90's TheRealNorth Sep 2019 #129

Things got much more conservative in the early 'eighties. hunter Sep 2019 #137

I wish they wouldn't dress like that KT2000 Sep 2019 #5

Unsanitary? How? unblock Sep 2019 #22

as I understand it KT2000 Sep 2019 #53

Good grief obamanut2012 Sep 2019 #56

lol pangaia Sep 2019 #77

Ecoli and fecal parasites are no joke. Mosby Sep 2019 #118

there's really no legitimate health concern here. unblock Sep 2019 #69

Not true Mosby Sep 2019 #119

sure, but that has nothing to do with choice of swimwear or sitting on poolside furniture. unblock Sep 2019 #134

But that's not going to change Codeine Sep 2019 #139

Wouldn't chlorine kill it? Polybius Sep 2019 #146

It can live for up to a week in a chlorinated pool. Mosby Sep 2019 #147

Wow, I didn't know that Polybius Sep 2019 #158

This has nothing to do wiith manners, except those like the OP obamanut2012 Sep 2019 #55

Spot on. cwydro Sep 2019 #79

I don't like it either. But I hate water and would leftyladyfrommo Sep 2019 #71

do you shower... in water.....? pangaia Sep 2019 #78

Nope. I just wash off every day. leftyladyfrommo Sep 2019 #89

I think we may have Codeine Sep 2019 #98

Possibly. leftyladyfrommo Sep 2019 #109

. . . Codeine Sep 2019 #140

Kids are kids. I wish I had my 20 year old body LakeArenal Sep 2019 #6

This message was self-deleted by its author Chin music Sep 2019 #32

I doubt the children noticed or cared. yardwork Sep 2019 #7

Yeah, they did notice. TruckFump Sep 2019 #10

How old was the child who asked to leave? yardwork Sep 2019 #12

Male, about 10 - 12. TruckFump Sep 2019 #14

That makes sense. He was old enough that he might REALLY have noticed. And been embarrassed. pnwmom Sep 2019 #36

I think it's gross and that some code for appropriate swimwear should be enacted. It's stressful emmaverybo Sep 2019 #8

Someone's butt is stressful for you? Codeine Sep 2019 #61

Time and place. If hanging out butt in a thong stresses seniors and their grand-children in a SENIOR emmaverybo Sep 2019 #131

they weren't guests, as I understand it. They live there. pangaia Sep 2019 #80

And people who live in a SENIOR community should not be held to any standard of attire when emmaverybo Sep 2019 #149

Certainly they should be held to a standard of attire. Mariana Sep 2019 #153

In that case, not much to be done unless others by consensus feel the way the OP does and want emmaverybo Sep 2019 #155

We're all naked under clothes. metroins Sep 2019 #9

My first thought as well... Phentex Sep 2019 #73

I am a senior living in a mostly 20 or 30 something's mnhtnbb Sep 2019 #11

Not prudes? unblock Sep 2019 #15

How? TruckFump Sep 2019 #16

You wrote a whole post objecting to it unblock Sep 2019 #27

yup Piasladic Sep 2019 #39

Well put. cwydro Sep 2019 #121

I think the community has every right to establish rules, but sans that, I don't know what you can hlthe2b Sep 2019 #17

It's suppose to be a SENIORS development... TruckFump Sep 2019 #20

Well, if the grandparents have taken them on perhaps they have no other options hlthe2b Sep 2019 #23

It might just be that they love their grandparents. nt. Mariana Sep 2019 #72

it's ok if you don;t get it.... pangaia Sep 2019 #84

Because with todays poor wages, far fewer people have the privilage of affording their own house... Lancero Sep 2019 #156

The "elderly sensibilities" on display are sexist and judgemental obamanut2012 Sep 2019 #57

Honestly. I don't care what people wear, but I do believe in showing some respect for others hlthe2b Sep 2019 #60

"I don't believe in making others uncomfortable. " pangaia Sep 2019 #85

I likewise have respect for grandparents whose concern for their young body dysmorphic grandchild hlthe2b Sep 2019 #95

I for one am proud of you for standing up for the poor, put-upon Boomers of the world. Act_of_Reparation Sep 2019 #96

I am standing up for mutual respect and concern for others. That used to be a tenet for all of us hlthe2b Sep 2019 #100

Uh-huh. Act_of_Reparation Sep 2019 #102

I am the one defending young children from fat-shaming/bodyshaming and body dysmorphic shaming hlthe2b Sep 2019 #103

Yes, yes, yes. Act_of_Reparation Sep 2019 #105

Perhaps you think rising rates of anorexia and teen suicide resulting from body dysmorphia hlthe2b Sep 2019 #106

That's a new one on me, I must say. Mariana Sep 2019 #110

That isn't what I am saying at all. Obviously you've never experienced the callous nature of hlthe2b Sep 2019 #113

Lol. cwydro Sep 2019 #122

Booties have the right of way Pool or beach night or day lunasun Sep 2019 #18

Nice try, but "speedos" are banned. TruckFump Sep 2019 #19

Now that ban is what you should complain about imo ! lunasun Sep 2019 #21

I think not. TruckFump Sep 2019 #25

old, fat men Piasladic Sep 2019 #41

LOL, TruckFump Sep 2019 #42

I guess so. -nt Piasladic Sep 2019 #45

You should check out the Russian men at the beach in Sanya, Hainan. pangaia Sep 2019 #86

I think that they were dressed appropriately for the spa and pool. However, if it had been Trailrider1951 Sep 2019 #24

I was not uncomfortable TruckFump Sep 2019 #26

Probably one of the most important things in a senior community is for grandchildren to feel emmaverybo Sep 2019 #30

Why would a butt make a kid uncomfortable? Codeine Sep 2019 #64

you hit it on the money.. those kids learned that SOMEWHERE ! pangaia Sep 2019 #87

What precisely was unfair? LanternWaste Sep 2019 #74

Wouldn't there be even more sarisataka Sep 2019 #28

Probably. TruckFump Sep 2019 #43

We weren't shaking our booties! Alea Sep 2019 #31

Oh my gawd, the children !!!! Iggo Sep 2019 #33

This thread is worthless without pictures!, lol n/t Baclava Sep 2019 #124

some booties shake naturally when moving around JI7 Sep 2019 #34

Lmao! nt ecstatic Sep 2019 #70

And the world is a better place for it. nt Codeine Sep 2019 #143

My favorite "senior" has been a lifelong nudist ismnotwasm Sep 2019 #35

"Butt Floss Bikinis". Very descriptive name. marybourg Sep 2019 #37

Not something that I would want to see. Blue_true Sep 2019 #38

Goodness we Americans can be an uptight bunch. GulfCoast66 Sep 2019 #44

We become more and more puritanical as we age BlueMississippi Sep 2019 #46

I don't know why anyone would want to wear madaboutharry Sep 2019 #47

I think we are way too hung up on nudity in this country. Dave Starsky Sep 2019 #58

Address? snort Sep 2019 #48

I have a question, where do you live? rufus dog Sep 2019 #49

down, boy Skittles Sep 2019 #52

Perspective KentuckyWoman Sep 2019 #51

I hope you learn how sexist your OP is obamanut2012 Sep 2019 #54

Well stated. nt Codeine Sep 2019 #65

I'm not sure what the problem is. BlueTsunami2018 Sep 2019 #59

When did DU become Church Lady Central? Codeine Sep 2019 #62

My husband wants directions. And here I thought he wasn't ready to retire. Vinca Sep 2019 #63

Are you sure didn't misspell "directions" ? OnDoutside Sep 2019 #66

Accustom kids to the fact that people have "parts?" alphafemale Sep 2019 #67

Just be happy it isn't the grandparents wearing the string (floss) bikinis. Liberal In Texas Sep 2019 #68

I am over 60 and wear a bikini. I don't care what people think, peacebuzzard Sep 2019 #88

Good for real! obamanut2012 Sep 2019 #99

Their attires seems so much more benign than network advertising. LanternWaste Sep 2019 #75

a Brazilian wax job goes well with bikinis. peacebuzzard Sep 2019 #81

Kids in Europe have no problem with this. cwydro Sep 2019 #82

School dress codes and boys who are easily distracted, HelpImSurrounded Sep 2019 #83

Dafuq? Act_of_Reparation Sep 2019 #90

Quite amazing. cwydro Sep 2019 #92

I don't know. Could it be Codeine Sep 2019 #97

This, the tattoo post obamanut2012 Sep 2019 #101

What tattoo post? Polybius Sep 2019 #160

No big deal peasant one Sep 2019 #91

'Much Ado About . . . not much. empedocles Sep 2019 #104

If someone's butt is the worst thing that those kids see today RGTIndy Sep 2019 #108

I don't see what the big deal is Niagara Sep 2019 #114

The boys in my high school had the same kind of open showers. MineralMan Sep 2019 #126

You're exactly correct, MM Niagara Sep 2019 #136

I know that many things have changed since I was in the school MineralMan Sep 2019 #157

Some pictures would help me understand the issue better. Mosby Sep 2019 #117

LOL.Ya sure know how to lighten the mood. emmaverybo Sep 2019 #150

A few decades ago, I was visiting one of my closest friends from childhood malaise Sep 2019 #120

The price we pay for freedoms! Brainfodder Sep 2019 #125

The human body doesn't need to be covered up Johnny2X2X Sep 2019 #127

Young kids have a tendency to reflect their parents' attitudes... TygrBright Sep 2019 #128

My wife and I are nudists. Naked adults do not scare children or give them trama. wasupaloopa Sep 2019 #130

I don't see a problem here. Captain Stern Sep 2019 #132

How about if we stop slut shaming women? Cuthbert Allgood Sep 2019 #133

I can't make an informed decision without seeing a picture LastLiberal in PalmSprings Sep 2019 #135

It's this closeted, Christian-tinged notion that the human body is shameful, which is the problem Tarc Sep 2019 #138

He don't like big butts and he cannot lie. Codeine Sep 2019 #141

They're all like that now for the younger ladies Polybius Sep 2019 #144

You should see what I see at the nude beach Polybius Sep 2019 #145

I want me, that is myself, plus everyone I don't want to see naked, severely clothed at all times. trackfan Sep 2019 #148

I am unsure of the sentiment "we are all beautiful" Skittles Sep 2019 #154

So Speedos are banned, but full-length trunks appear to be OK. SeattleVet Sep 2019 #151

I would like to get pdxflyboy Sep 2019 #152

Lol Polybius Jun 2020 #161