We lost my little brother this morning

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166. Oh No!

I'm so sorry to hear this. As a mom, this has got to be the most horrible thing to go through - having to bury one of your children. Your kids are supposed to bury YOU. NOT the other way around.

My heart is with her - and with you.

Thank you for sharing this difficult moment. When my mom died six years ago, I posted about it, kinda half-heartedly. It was late at night and I couldn't sleep and I just posted a one-liner about it. I was met with an almost instant DELUGE of compassion and sympathy and condolence. I couldn't believe it. It was BEYOND touching and comforting. It meant more than I can even say, and I've maybe met two DUers in my whole life, and I barely know most of the others - mainly from their posts and our internet conversations. STILL meant more than I'll ever be able to articulate. Made me cry more than even her passing did. Hers was expected, though. She'd been going steadily downhill for months, sick for years, just made it to her 90th birthday, she'd had a full, active life, and we knew it was coming. And it was still kinda rough even with all the cliches - "at least she isn't in pain anymore," "she's in a better place," "but she had a great life," and so forth.

This, with your family, I can only imagine, is SO MUCH tougher.

Not gonna offer cliches. I don't know if they even help - except for the intention of the giver. Just know we're here, we empathize, you're not alone, we will share your pain and we will buoy you up. Many shoulders will make the burden a tiny bit easier to bear.