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In reply to the discussion: Can someone help me understand my wing nut friends? [View all]marions ghost
(19,841 posts)& have been victimized by a couple of them myself --not to mention how we all have been victimized by the evildoers working in and behind our own government. There's probably not a single soul at DU who feels entirely safe from ruthless people.
If your mother is truly without conscience then no, you can't help her. Forgiveness (or processing for you, more accurately) can wait. Sure joint therapy would help but she needs deprogramming. Seems doubtful you could persuade her to do any counseling but ya never know. Anyway, not a priority in light of your current situation.
The clue to your Mom that I read in your statement is that she feels she must have Fox "to make her feel connected to the world." Obviously she has no other anchor than that. Sad, but also sad that so many are in the same delusional state. The suggestion that your sister "needs Fox" is insensitive to the point of absurdity IMO. People in hospice do not need to feel more connected to the world (is Mom trying to pull her back from the brink?) People in hospice need to feel resolved that they are leaving this world and preparing for the journey beyond, according to their beliefs. You Mom is in denial about your sister, seems to me. You are having to assume the mature role in this and that's a big job. Try not to take on your mother's negativity and her view of you, which you know is based on lies. Rise above in this, do the real work of the angels for your sis, and put your Mom in perspective (ie. she is not a helper to you). She will reap what she has sown, don't worry. Another ordeal may come if you are called upon to nurse/help Mom at any point (if that happens get a counselor yourself to get thru it).
The rightwing brain-washers deserve at least half of your justified anger and hurt. They choose their fragile victims and they bend them to their will.
I really have been there...