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MuseRider

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62. Whatever happened to asking politely

Mon Jul 20, 2020, 11:52 AM

Jul 2020

about issues like that? She could have put a note in your door asking you if you did call and she could have also said that she had let it go for whatever reason and when she was going to take care of it. Of course we all know this but when did everything turn this way?

One would figure she is probably around my age or younger if she has not retired and we were still taught to be polite. Anger has it's place but not to someone who has helped her so much.

It makes you wonder if they like it this way. Trump is this way, a lot of people always have been but it seems that nastiness is all you hear anymore. Makes me glad I am closer to the end of my life. This is not a fun way to live.

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My Next Door Neighbor Stuck a Nasty Letter in My Kitchen Door [View all] MineralMan Jul 2020 OP

Wow. She's got issues, but you aren't one of them. GreenPartyVoter Jul 2020 #1

Yes, and I know that I'm not the issue. MineralMan Jul 2020 #4

Just to make a point mercuryblues Jul 2020 #14

I'm not really a passive aggressive person. MineralMan Jul 2020 #18

God bless you-Much better than I could be packman Jul 2020 #29

I'm really just taking the path of least resistance with her. MineralMan Jul 2020 #31

You crazy diamond, you. jaxexpat Jul 2020 #112

If you think about it... Boomer Jul 2020 #83

A real nasty woman. dalton99a Jul 2020 #2

So she is. She's also depressed. MineralMan Jul 2020 #6

I think this is a common feature cilla4progress Jul 2020 #63

SHE IS SUCH A JERK !!! What a rotten woman. trueblue2007 Jul 2020 #106

What A Vomit of a Person Skraxx Jul 2020 #3

She is not a nice person. MineralMan Jul 2020 #8

and now she's probably extra depressed limbaugh might not be there to interpret events to certainot Jul 2020 #55

After all this, and the trump sign I think I'd let her do her own snow blowing and let MLAA Jul 2020 #5

No. I'll continue to do those things, because MineralMan Jul 2020 #7

She is lucky 🙂 MLAA Jul 2020 #9

Good job, you are a good neighbor. safeinOhio Jul 2020 #12

She avoids me, which is fine. MineralMan Jul 2020 #19

...These words are special..(post 7)..."I think they're the right things to do." Stuart G Jul 2020 #48

What do you suppose the response would be if you did your half of the driveway JustBidenOurTime Jul 2020 #49

I'm not going to mow her yard. Not a chance. MineralMan Jul 2020 #88

Yes, I've wondered about that (the shared driveway)...and w/ the way you are, I'm surprised that... SWBTATTReg Jul 2020 #96

The mid-50s development where I live has many shared MineralMan Jul 2020 #98

Please reconsider mowing her lawn. It will cost you a couple of bucks and your get NCjack Jul 2020 #115

I imagine she's also a maskhole, and will be more likely to die of COVID than you are. lagomorph777 Jul 2020 #10

Well, it might be a good thing... 2naSalit Jul 2020 #11

We don't get to choose our neighbors. MineralMan Jul 2020 #20

I knew a woman who rode the bus. If she saw a leftyladyfrommo Jul 2020 #13

Yup. There are plenty of people like that, it seems. MineralMan Jul 2020 #22

You are a great guy!! Alliepoo Jul 2020 #15

One of those sweeping generalities we're not supposed to use... Wounded Bear Jul 2020 #16

Hmm, OK... MineralMan Jul 2020 #24

Assumptions are easy to make CommonHumanity Jul 2020 #17

Well, I'm here, and live next door to that person, and have for 12 years. MineralMan Jul 2020 #23

But you did say you rarely talk to her or encounter her. kcr Jul 2020 #67

Both things are true. However, if you live across the driveway MineralMan Jul 2020 #69

Mental rigidity and confirmation bias bucolic_frolic Jul 2020 #21

Also an inability to use critical thinking. MineralMan Jul 2020 #27

Sounds like she's invested in "wanting" you to be the one. Why can't you just accept the role of Cognitive_Resonance Jul 2020 #25

Sorry, Man! Nasty neighbors suck. TheBlackAdder Jul 2020 #26

She's not really a nasty neighbor. MineralMan Jul 2020 #28

It sounds like she might be in crisis and could use a little outreach. TheBlackAdder Jul 2020 #44

Yes, I think that's probably correct. MineralMan Jul 2020 #60

Recommended. H2O Man Jul 2020 #30

This one is easy matt819 Jul 2020 #32

I could do those things, of course. MineralMan Jul 2020 #38

I figured. matt819 Jul 2020 #75

What an ungrateful expletive! Catherine Vincent Jul 2020 #33

I wouldn't do shit for her ever again. CanonRay Jul 2020 #34

Most everyone here would love to be your neighbor Sucha NastyWoman Jul 2020 #35

Some cities have employees who actively ride through neighborhoods... NurseJackie Jul 2020 #36

St. Paul, MN does have code enforcement staffers. MineralMan Jul 2020 #47

Yup Sherman A1 Jul 2020 #107

My neighbor is a Trumper too. ProudMNDemocrat Jul 2020 #37

Just found out we have one of those, too. calimary Jul 2020 #41

"I've also jump-started her rattletrap car many times, on her request." C Moon Jul 2020 #39

"Apparently, she doesn't mind, as long as she gets her unemployment check." Liberal In Texas Jul 2020 #40

Living across a shared driveway from someone for 12 years, MineralMan Jul 2020 #52

I had a nasty neighbor when I lived in Northeast Minneapolis. Scruffy1 Jul 2020 #42

Yeah we had a guy like that here 47of74 Jul 2020 #104

So is her issue with mowing her yard cost or indifference? pandr32 Jul 2020 #43

I don't care if she mows her lawn or not. MineralMan Jul 2020 #56

You've been a better neighbor than she deserves pandr32 Jul 2020 #58

"She doesn't think, she just reacts" Heartstrings Jul 2020 #45

I wouldn't even bother talking to her. roamer65 Jul 2020 #46

I rarely do talk to her, as I said earlier. MineralMan Jul 2020 #57

I'm sorry you got a nasty note from your neighbor. Does gossiping about her life make it any better? chia Jul 2020 #50

That's what happens when you and neighbors don't communicate. Aussie105 Jul 2020 #117

I'll bet the real estate agent called, they want the neighborhood to look neat & tidy. CaptainTruth Jul 2020 #51

Yes, that seems likely to me, too. MineralMan Jul 2020 #61

Rush Limbaugh's neighbor mowed his yard before he was famous because he was too fat and lazy to do brewens Jul 2020 #53

I wasn't aware of that. Interesting. MineralMan Jul 2020 #65

Great post! colorado_ufo Jul 2020 #54

Reading this thread you say she might be depressed and alone. cayugafalls Jul 2020 #59

Whatever happened to asking politely MuseRider Jul 2020 #62

Jumping to conclusions is a national pastime. Sneederbunk Jul 2020 #64

It sucks to have nasty neighbors. The Velveteen Ocelot Jul 2020 #66

We don't get to choose our neighbors. So, we have to cope with what we get. MineralMan Jul 2020 #68

Exactly, especially these days. The Velveteen Ocelot Jul 2020 #73

At some point, as with your poisoned landscaping, you have MineralMan Jul 2020 #76

Why all the jump starts? I haven't ever had one, and I've been driving almost as long as you 😊 progree Jul 2020 #70

Old car. Old battery. No charger. No money. MineralMan Jul 2020 #74

Thanks for the detailed reply! I've been thinking of doing something like that - to have progree Jul 2020 #82

No problem. You can pick up a luggage cart at Goodwill MineralMan Jul 2020 #85

That's helpful to know, about the Kia Soul. raccoon Jul 2020 #116

There is nothing worse than having a jackass for a neighbor.. Peacetrain Jul 2020 #71

Oh, there are many things worse than that. MineralMan Jul 2020 #77

What an ingrate. I would not be as kind, and I certainly wouldn't be doing any more snow removal. Evolve Dammit Jul 2020 #72

Mineral Man, I applaud how you handled this situation with ur neighbor -all goodness coming ur way. iluvtennis Jul 2020 #78

And here I thought everyone in Minnesota was "Minnesota Nice". Fla Dem Jul 2020 #79

"Minnesota Nice" is used sarcastically more often than not, really. MineralMan Jul 2020 #86

She seems to be like many Trump supporters. Sloumeau Jul 2020 #80

since those on unemployment got a $600 UBI a week I think those on fixed income yaesu Jul 2020 #81

I'd like to see that $600 extended until the pandemic is over. MineralMan Jul 2020 #87

Agreed Sherman A1 Jul 2020 #108

People are stressed. What America is going through is awful berni_mccoy Jul 2020 #84

Depression & Fear Desert_Leslie Jul 2020 #89

That's how I was raised. MineralMan Jul 2020 #91

I'm sorry that happened to you. AwakeAtLast Jul 2020 #90

Tell her it must be the deep state. world wide wally Jul 2020 #92

There's another Trump voter! CloudWatcher Jul 2020 #93

Imagine people like her on a neighborhood mailing list. We have that. CousinIT Jul 2020 #94

I don't use those. MineralMan Jul 2020 #101

I sincerely hope you don't pick up limbs or blow snow for her any more. Nt raccoon Jul 2020 #95

You were much nicer than I would have been. I don't suffer fools Ferrets are Cool Jul 2020 #97

Our town has a blight ordinance that is enforced by our two Zoning Enforcement Officers.... George II Jul 2020 #99

St. Paul is too big to do that. MineralMan Jul 2020 #100

At least it was simply a note... LanternWaste Jul 2020 #102

Hi, there. MineralMan Jul 2020 #122

About sixty years ago, perfessor Jul 2020 #103

Good on ya mate. warmfeet Jul 2020 #105

You're far too kind... MineralMan Jul 2020 #120

I doubt that. warmfeet Jul 2020 #124

I have two words for your neighbor DonaldsRump Jul 2020 #109

America is not just sick of Trump ThoughtCriminal Jul 2020 #110

I would call the city and tell them her Trump signs are offensive mdbl Jul 2020 #111

She may already have a Trump '20 sign. You just cant see it for the damn grass!! oldsoftie Jul 2020 #113

logic and reasoning... Locrian Jul 2020 #114

Tolerant, you are! Aussie105 Jul 2020 #118

Feeding the animals... MineralMan Jul 2020 #121

after St helens puked a foot of ash on our lawn we didnt mow it for awhile.. who wants that dust samnsara Jul 2020 #119

trump supporters are paranoid idiots Gothmog Jul 2020 #123