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Ms. Toad

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24. A lot of folks are in that situation.

Tue Jul 28, 2020, 12:15 AM

Jul 2020

April/May/June are very busy wedding months.

If I needed paper, I'd go to a justice of the peace, then have the big family/friends/faith community wedding for a 1st or 2nd anniversary. I would not ask family and friends to choose between health and attending a wedding.

(Of course, that's speaking as someone with 4 anniversaries, since LGBT folks tend to have a lot: The 1981 date we use to mark the start of our marriage, the 1990 faith community marriage, the 2004-ish legal marriage in Canada, and finally the 2015 Obergefell which granted legal recognition everywhere.)

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Bride-to-be just had to have a bridal shower. One person showed up not wearing a mask. [View all] eppur_se_muova Jul 2020 OP

Hopefully, the one without mask didn't have an infectious smile and a contagious laugh. Beakybird Jul 2020 #1

Very clever..... TheDemsshouldhireme Jul 2020 #20

My niece is having a bridal shower next weekend. Ms. Toad Jul 2020 #2

No way! I would politely decline to attend that event. n/t Laelth Jul 2020 #3

The problem is that my spouse is going to attend. Ms. Toad Jul 2020 #6

That's rough. I don't envy you this decision. Laelth Jul 2020 #9

I'm not going. Ms. Toad Jul 2020 #10

Don't even think about going. Send her a nice gift along with your regrets. The Velveteen Ocelot Jul 2020 #5

Not going. Ms. Toad Jul 2020 #8

Yikes, I hope you can talk her out of it. The Velveteen Ocelot Jul 2020 #11

You are not paranoid, you are being thoughtful. Your spouse is not using good judgment here IMO. StevieM Jul 2020 #14

Yes, we are in a hot spot. Ms. Toad Jul 2020 #19

You can find out after the event but if she ends up taking her mask off and others do the same Maraya1969 Jul 2020 #18

Everyone in our family is in a high risk group . . . Ms. Toad Jul 2020 #21

Sheesh - I guess some sort of inn nearby isn't an option? calimary Jul 2020 #33

Nope. Ms. Toad Jul 2020 #38

A chain is only as strong as it weakest link. Mars and Minerva Jul 2020 #32

I passed on a niece's wedding shower last Sunday. Cracklin Charlie Jul 2020 #12

We'll face the wedding question in about a month and a half. n/t Ms. Toad Jul 2020 #23

Tell them you will not go to the weeding so they do not... 3catwoman3 Jul 2020 #31

Ever heard of walking out. Blue_true Jul 2020 #15

It doesn't solve the basic problem, Ms. Toad Jul 2020 #22

I have started just declining the invitations and shipping gifts. notinkansas Jul 2020 #25

We've pretty much decided to cancel our in-person open house for the holidays. Ms. Toad Jul 2020 #29

I guess there's always Zoom. calimary Jul 2020 #34

What? Wednesdays Jul 2020 #4

(Very) extended family. No names. eppur_se_muova Jul 2020 #16

My daughter is getting married in August LeftInTX Jul 2020 #7

I'm just curious but Skittles Jul 2020 #13

This is their second try. They postponed their April wedding LeftInTX Jul 2020 #17

A lot of folks are in that situation. Ms. Toad Jul 2020 #24

I know. But I can't control my daughter LeftInTX Jul 2020 #28

That's the way I'd do it, but then I wouldn't want a church wedding in the first place ... eppur_se_muova Jul 2020 #39

This is what I don't understand. Cracklin Charlie Jul 2020 #30

Yes, I can understand wanting to make it legal but couldn't they just hold off on the celebrations JI7 Jul 2020 #35

I agree Skittles Jul 2020 #40

Tell your spouse fine, she can go, but she'll need to self-quarantine PoindexterOglethorpe Jul 2020 #26

Why do people think breathing/talking vapor doesn't drift past 6 feet? Beartracks Jul 2020 #27

Gawd. So many of us are in the same situation. I love my husband's brother's family to bits... Hekate Jul 2020 #36

The US is littered with selfishness. nt Progressive Jones Jul 2020 #37