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notinkansas

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25. I have started just declining the invitations and shipping gifts.

Tue Jul 28, 2020, 12:17 AM

Jul 2020

Sister-in-law (former nurse) sent out bridal shower invitations after the start of the pandemic. What?

Another sister-in-law (another former nurse) sent out baby shower invitations well into the pandemic. Um, not doing that.

Husband indicated that he felt obligated to attend nephew's wedding in the Fall. Not I.

Another sister-in-law is planning a family party in August. This is a big family. 9 children, a gazillion grandchildren and several great grandchildren. Crowd size is definitely an issue.

I do feel that this family feels they are above all the rules and impervious to trivial things like pandemics. Why do people have to be like that?

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Bride-to-be just had to have a bridal shower. One person showed up not wearing a mask. [View all] eppur_se_muova Jul 2020 OP

Hopefully, the one without mask didn't have an infectious smile and a contagious laugh. Beakybird Jul 2020 #1

Very clever..... TheDemsshouldhireme Jul 2020 #20

My niece is having a bridal shower next weekend. Ms. Toad Jul 2020 #2

No way! I would politely decline to attend that event. n/t Laelth Jul 2020 #3

The problem is that my spouse is going to attend. Ms. Toad Jul 2020 #6

That's rough. I don't envy you this decision. Laelth Jul 2020 #9

I'm not going. Ms. Toad Jul 2020 #10

Don't even think about going. Send her a nice gift along with your regrets. The Velveteen Ocelot Jul 2020 #5

Not going. Ms. Toad Jul 2020 #8

Yikes, I hope you can talk her out of it. The Velveteen Ocelot Jul 2020 #11

You are not paranoid, you are being thoughtful. Your spouse is not using good judgment here IMO. StevieM Jul 2020 #14

Yes, we are in a hot spot. Ms. Toad Jul 2020 #19

You can find out after the event but if she ends up taking her mask off and others do the same Maraya1969 Jul 2020 #18

Everyone in our family is in a high risk group . . . Ms. Toad Jul 2020 #21

Sheesh - I guess some sort of inn nearby isn't an option? calimary Jul 2020 #33

Nope. Ms. Toad Jul 2020 #38

A chain is only as strong as it weakest link. Mars and Minerva Jul 2020 #32

I passed on a niece's wedding shower last Sunday. Cracklin Charlie Jul 2020 #12

We'll face the wedding question in about a month and a half. n/t Ms. Toad Jul 2020 #23

Tell them you will not go to the weeding so they do not... 3catwoman3 Jul 2020 #31

Ever heard of walking out. Blue_true Jul 2020 #15

It doesn't solve the basic problem, Ms. Toad Jul 2020 #22

I have started just declining the invitations and shipping gifts. notinkansas Jul 2020 #25

We've pretty much decided to cancel our in-person open house for the holidays. Ms. Toad Jul 2020 #29

I guess there's always Zoom. calimary Jul 2020 #34

What? Wednesdays Jul 2020 #4

(Very) extended family. No names. eppur_se_muova Jul 2020 #16

My daughter is getting married in August LeftInTX Jul 2020 #7

I'm just curious but Skittles Jul 2020 #13

This is their second try. They postponed their April wedding LeftInTX Jul 2020 #17

A lot of folks are in that situation. Ms. Toad Jul 2020 #24

I know. But I can't control my daughter LeftInTX Jul 2020 #28

That's the way I'd do it, but then I wouldn't want a church wedding in the first place ... eppur_se_muova Jul 2020 #39

This is what I don't understand. Cracklin Charlie Jul 2020 #30

Yes, I can understand wanting to make it legal but couldn't they just hold off on the celebrations JI7 Jul 2020 #35

I agree Skittles Jul 2020 #40

Tell your spouse fine, she can go, but she'll need to self-quarantine PoindexterOglethorpe Jul 2020 #26

Why do people think breathing/talking vapor doesn't drift past 6 feet? Beartracks Jul 2020 #27

Gawd. So many of us are in the same situation. I love my husband's brother's family to bits... Hekate Jul 2020 #36

The US is littered with selfishness. nt Progressive Jones Jul 2020 #37