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MuseRider

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20. I would prefer my first name.

Reply to moose65 (Original post)

Thu Jul 30, 2020, 10:12 PM

Jul 2020

My last name is not my last name. When I got married I was under significant pressure to take my husbands last name. I did not want to but my mother and my grandparents and my not very nice father in law let me have it. I caved in the hopes that I would still be able to maintain an identity. Getting called Mrs. His Name just annoyed the hell out of me. Maybe it has to do with just being identified as them and not them through him?

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Isn't this sexist? [View all] moose65 Jul 2020 OP

Personally I think its simply because if you just said Harris no one would be sure who you meant lettucebe Jul 2020 #1

uhm who else do you think they would mean? jcgoldie Jul 2020 #6

They are better known by their first names? moose65 Jul 2020 #9

Many people call him Uncle Joe . JI7 Jul 2020 #12

They do? moose65 Jul 2020 #18

Most of Hillary Clinton's campaign materials referred to her as Hillary. The Velveteen Ocelot Jul 2020 #2

The names I have for Trump are all unflattering! moose65 Jul 2020 #13

I think it is. Delmette2.0 Jul 2020 #3

I tend to agree gratuitous Jul 2020 #4

Good idea moose65 Jul 2020 #10

It's a good question, but I have heard it both ways... LuckyCharms Jul 2020 #5

It's why I say Sen. Warren, ect... Ferrets are Cool Jul 2020 #7

Warren is actually referred to as Warren mostly. JI7 Jul 2020 #11

Not by me Ferrets are Cool Jul 2020 #14

Yay! moose65 Jul 2020 #15

In Hillary's case it's because Bill is known as Clinton although he is JI7 Jul 2020 #8

no, the first and last names are used on both groups at different times,. we use Pelosi Demonaut Jul 2020 #16

You tell me ornotna Jul 2020 #17

Yes, I know moose65 Jul 2020 #22

+10000000000 sheshe2 Jul 2020 #23

Bernie, Beto, Jeb Poiuyt Jul 2020 #19

Bernie is about the only man... moose65 Jul 2020 #24

I would prefer my first name. MuseRider Jul 2020 #20

No. sheshe2 Jul 2020 #21

Yeah, I know moose65 Jul 2020 #26

It depends on your point of view obviously lunatica Aug 2020 #48

I think you are right. Personally, male or female, I'm never comfortable using first Hoyt Jul 2020 #25

I've noticed the same thing. rogue emissary Jul 2020 #27

I agree moose65 Jul 2020 #30

What if you asked for and were granted permission? sl8 Jul 2020 #35

Lol! demmiblue Aug 2020 #47

I don't think that it is sexist. Blue_true Jul 2020 #28

Maybe it would be less sexist if we lived in Iceland, where everybody goes by their first name The Velveteen Ocelot Jul 2020 #29

Kind Of RobinA Jul 2020 #31

You could try to prove this by running google searches Renew Deal Jul 2020 #32

The hypothesis? moose65 Jul 2020 #37

I think this is completely anecdotal and disagree Drahthaardogs Jul 2020 #33

I agree Renew Deal Jul 2020 #34

Wait.... moose65 Jul 2020 #36

It is anecdotal as well Drahthaardogs Jul 2020 #38

Well, that's not really what I said moose65 Aug 2020 #41

I've got an election to help win. GulfCoast66 Jul 2020 #39

Haha moose65 Aug 2020 #42

anecdotal (and very selective) Celerity Jul 2020 #40

Well of course it's anecdotal moose65 Aug 2020 #43

Bernie is a woman?? Trumpocalypse Aug 2020 #44

No. BannonsLiver Aug 2020 #45

I don't hear or see Elizabeth Warren's first name being used like that Polybius Aug 2020 #46