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In reply to the discussion: Moms Covid - update :( [View all]EndlessWire
(6,513 posts)important questions that only your family can answer. Just make sure it's what YOUR FAMILY wants, and do not let them push you into anything.
I'm very bitter over the way my mother was treated by docs, in a time when we had plenty of beds and she was a vet. They plainly wanted to make her DNR, and they repeatedly asked to make her so. I took her home and she lived for three more years. It was tough, though, and you have to have a lot of fortitude and backup support.
I'm just saying, do what YOU want to do. Accept knowledgeable medical advice, but she's your Mom, not theirs. These times are different, and soon we may have to choose between old and young. Just do your best.
If she has to be intubated, she may end up not being weanable. Be strong. I once had a patient's daughter fly in from Arizona to be with her when she was removed from the ventilator. Patient passed in ten minutes.
Dear, this is tough for you. Prayers coming your way. Your Mom is lucky to have you helping her.