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In reply to the discussion: Other than Katie Porter & a couple others, the Democratic Party STILL doesn't know how to fight back [View all]ancianita
(35,711 posts)The word argument is used as "explanation" not as heated exchange.
See, that's what I'm talking about.
The fact that we both have to clarify our meaning proves your previous point -- that if you have to explain your message, you're losing.
It's hard enough for all of us on the same side to agree about the nature of fight, and even about what words work.
But smarter people that us have said that as long as opponents keep talking, they're going to get somewhere more constructive (win-win) than literal fighting (win-lose). Win-win makes for mutual respect, if not allies.
When we buy too much into win-lose, we become like our dominator opponents, and we slowly lose our commitment to equality.
The fight involves more doing than messaging. Doing sends a stronger, clearer message than any words.