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In reply to the discussion: I'm struggling. [View all]AirmensMom
(14,649 posts)First, I commend you for sharing your privilege. We need more of that in this world.
Our daughter is having somewhat similar issues. She graduated with her MS this spring and was rewarded with a wonderful job teaching at the same university, which she gets to do from home during Covid. She owns her own home, has 2 new kittens, and the world is her oyster at this point. She's young and healthy. And she's fearless, which she does not get from me. She doesn't pay much attention to politics, so she doesn't really share all my sources of sadness. The thing is Covid. These should be the happiest years of their lives and they know it. Yet there is this dark cloud hanging over everyone. Mine regularly tells me that she is going stir crazy. I really feel bad for the young people right now.
I know my own relationships with my daughters have run hot and cold. Therapists have told me that mother/daughter relationships tend to be complicated. It's hard not to resent her while looking from the outside into her life. I doubt they ever really tell us what's going on so all we know is what we see.
Not everyone has a clear vision of the actions they can take. You are a great example for your daughter. I do understand negativity, actually. In my case it has to do with helplessness. Or the feeling that whatever I do won't make a difference. As you can see by the mere fact that I posted this thread, I don't have the answers.
You're welcome and thank you too!